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I will never forget the woman in my practice who got very angry at her husband when he started pitching in more around the house- cleaning up after dinner, picking up after the kids, stopping at the grocery store occasionally to replenish needed supplies.   Because arguments about spouses not doing their fair share abound in practice, I felt as if I had landed on Mars. “Weird,” I thought.  But I managed to access my inner professional by simply showing curiosity and asking, “

Do you remember the movie, Bambi? Although it was actually made in 1942, many generations of children have seen it since.   I recently thought of Bambi because one of the characters in the movie- Thumper, a baby rabbit- had recited a lesson he had learned from his father, advice that I consider timeless.   "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all."   I wish more people embraced this philosophy!   Now, don't get me wrong, there are times when it's important

When relationships become challenging, we want to understand what’s going on.  We look for causes.  And most of the time, we become convinced that our loved ones are to blame.  We find ourselves thinking, “Our relationship would be easy if it weren’t for you.” Consider our national obsession with identifying whether or not the people in our lives are dysfunctional in some way.  Posts, articles or videos focusing on toxic relationships are more likely to be shared on social me

I’ve been specializing in helping couples on the brink of divorce for nearly 4 decades.  Needless to say, I’ve learned more about...

Did you know that of the over one million marriages that will end in divorce this year, two thirds to three quarters of those divorces...

As a long-time observer of relationships, I can tell you that, like children, marriages go through different developmental stages and...

I have been doing marriage therapy for nearly three decades.  And one thing is for sure- people experiencing marital difficulties wait a...

When it comes to marriage, there’s no question about it, sex is a tie that binds. However, for millions of couples, there is trouble...

My last post contained 11 tips to help boost sexual desire . If you are someone whose sexual desire needs no boosting, that doesn’t mean...

Michele, I have a husband who is a good guy; great father, good provider, but I have no lover. This lack of sex in my marriage is more...

You're really mad at your partner. You've explained your point of view a million times. S/he never listens. You can't believe that a...

Today I want to write about topic that I think is so important as you are working on improving your marriage. Too many people work so...

This article, first published in the Sept/Oct, 2001 issue of Psychotherapy Networker, is about my personal and professional "Divorce...

Are you someone who walks around feeling angry with your spouse or loved one much of the time? Do you have a little inner voice that...

The Chicago Tribune asked its readers, "Should couples stay in unhappy marriages for the sake of the kids?" I felt compelled to respond...

It often strikes men between the ages of thirty-five and fifty-something.  You think your marriage is decent.  Oh yes, you realize that...

For the past year and a half, Sue has been struggling to feel herself again after the discovery of her husband’s 6-month affair. Len was...

Q & A - "My Husband Isn't Interested in Sex" Dear Michele, I've been married for 19 years. My husband always had problems with erections,...

Although I usually write about things you can do to keep a marriage on track, this article contains a tip of what to avoid doing. I have...

Rumor has it that "Questions Couples Should Ask (Or Wish They Had) Before Marrying," a Dec. 17, 2006, New York Times list of 15 key...