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Q & A - "My Husband Isn't Interested in Sex" Dear Michele, I've been married for 19 years. My husband always had problems with erections,...

Although I usually write about things you can do to keep a marriage on track, this article contains a tip of what to avoid doing. I have...

Rumor has it that "Questions Couples Should Ask (Or Wish They Had) Before Marrying," a Dec. 17, 2006, New York Times list of 15 key...

Anyone who has had small children knows that when they are incredibly cranky or crabby, they make us miserable too. But as parents, we...

Since the publication of my book, Divorce Busting, I have been regularly interviewed by reporters about what makes marriages work. They...

Perhaps you are someone whose spouse is in the midst of an affair and it is making you crazy. You feel like giving up on your marriage....

Hi Michele, I'd like to ask your advice about sex. My husband and I have very different sex drives. For him, everyday would be great, and...

Having marriage problems? Are you considering divorce? Well, it?s time you put your assumptions about marriage issues to the test! Take...

It amazes me that most people decide to end their marriages without seeking professional help. The decision of whether to divorce or not...

If you have reached an impasse in your marriage-saving efforts, you will want to read this three-part series because it will help you diagnose the reasons you might be stuck. Don’t despair, just make sure you read this and the next two parts! So, why haven’t you seen change in your marriage yet? Let’s take a look at a few possible reasons. You Haven’t Given a Method Sufficient Time to Work Before Trying Something Else It is often the case that, if a technique doesn’t yield im

Continued from Part 1 Your attempts at change were halfhearted Sometimes when there is a lack of improvement, it is because when you’ve experimented with a technique, you only did halfheartedly. If your heart isn’t in it when you approach your spouse, your spouse will think you are acting and will immediately see through what you’re trying to do. S/he might feel manipulated, and therefore, not respond in a positive manner. If doing things halfheartedly fails to bring about

Continued from Part 2 . Read Part 1 here. Your Spouse is Involved with Someone Else I don’t consider it a marital death sentence if one spouse is having either an emotional or physical affair with someone else. I have seen countless marriages survive infidelity and even become stronger after the healing begins. However, it is also true that positive change in marriage is harder to achieve when one spouse is emotionally or physically interested or attached to someone else

Romantic dinners at candlelit restaurants, Godiva chocolates, two dozen long-stem roses, sentimental Hallmark cards- the stuff Valentine’s Day is made of. But what if your relationship is on the rocks and Valentine’s Day is just another painful reminder that your life isn’t what you hoped it would be? Then what do you do? I know, this isn’t exactly an uplifting topic, but the truth is, the vast majority of people in my practice are not exactly big Valentine’s Day enthusiasts.

“We’re just friends.” “We don’t talk about anything personal.” “What’s wrong with my wanting to have friends of the opposite sex?” “No matter what you think, it’s not sexual, so stop hassling me.” “What am I supposed to do? Stop talking to him? I work with him.” “I can’t fire her. She hasn’t doesn’t anything wrong.” “You’re too suspicious.” Does any of this sound familiar? Are you thinking that your spouse or partner has a relationship with someone that makes you feel uncomfo

Pamela White’s article “ Defending Divorce ” is filled with erroneous assumptions and information, which I would like to debunk. To consider it to be “meddling” that a proposed law requiring couples with children to take a class about the impact of divorce and to have a “cooling off” period prior to divorcing, demonstrates no appreciation for the havoc divorce leaves in its wake. Children have no veto power in a decision that will forever alter their lives. Minimally, parent