M 16.5 S 14, D 16 (live with mom); SS 25 (lives with me) 11/05 - X files D 7/06 - X moved out with kids (I offered X the house but she declined so I bought her out. Immediately OM in the picture continuously) 10/1706 - D final 5/07 - X Marries OM 11/05 - Arrange face to face with Mr. X to forgive him.
The marriage was rocky for over 10 years. X had an affair with a different OM around 98/99. We separated for 6 months from 6/99 to 12/99 (I moved because of her hysterics and volatility) but got back together. After X moved this time, I attempted to "stand" for the marriage but since coming back to the board 8/06, I have slowly moved from vigorously standing, to remaining open to reconciliation to deciding that I would not reconcile (X getting married closed the door for good).
X and I have been Christians since before we started dating, X has asserted that God has given her permission to D and has paved her way to be with OM who is not a Christian.
My title comes from the Bible verse:
Quote:
Romans 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.
I own my part in the demise of marriage but I believe my X had no grounds for marriage according to our professed faith and the teachings we held from the Bible. Yet, I still maintain that God will use this situation to work for His greater good.
Getting A Life The transition from being devastated at the realization that OM was not Just a friend to Standing to Getting A Life and finally deciding I will not take X back has been an extremely challenging journey but God has provided the people, resources total support that I have needed including the people in this forum. My life has become increasingly full, an amazing adventure with blessing after blessing after blessing.
THANK YOU! A huge "thank you" goes out to Michele for making this forum available for us DBers who tried and yet still wound up in this forum. An equally huge "thank you" goes out to the people in this forum who lend an ear, offer sage advice or a shoulder (or thread) to cry on. There have been plenty of very challenging times I have had to go through to this point and this forum and the people in it have helped immeasurably in bringing healing.
Committed2Him- "C2H" All Things (Back from Spain!)...18
I resurfaced yesterday to offer belated Christmas wishes and an advanced Happy New Year when Karen addressed me and closed my thread. Profound thoughts (at least in my own head) will be posted soon so that I may look back, learn and grow from the past and that I might also look forwards and prayerfully plan for the future.
In the meantime who's thirsty?
Committed2Him- "C2H" All Things (Back from Spain!)...18
How about a Baily's and coffee.... that's as hard as I need to go. I'm a wimp with alkie...
I was beginning to wonder about you C2.... hadn't seen you around much. Wondered if you got all your re-entry into the dating scene all squared away and decided to ditch us.... for closer company. Good to see you back and looking forward to hearing about your holidays.
Psa 51:10 Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.
You disappear then resurface everytime someone mentions anything about alcohol. Do you live in a dry town or something?
What's happening in your life? How are your kids and what have you been up to?
Oh man.....this is so hard to admit but I guess I do miss you...
Love, Bethie
Hi C2,
I miss you as well. You have let me swing in the breeze the last couple of weeks and I don't like it.
Just want to thank you as well for keeping me on the straight and narrow. I'm glad that your Christmas was a happy one and I wish you the happiest of New Years..........
Naw, not ditching this group too much fun and too much learning to continue doing. (Easy on the Baily's ok, some people will spread rumors about anything).
Bethie, now you know you've been in my thoughts and I've touched base off the board so you're not swinging in my breeze but maybe in the breeze of artistic twirls on the poll? Fess up darling
Committed2Him- "C2H" All Things (Back from Spain!)...18
Just trying to make you feel guilty....cause that's how I do!
I think I miss coming to the board in the morning and not seeing your middle of the night (well pacific time anyway) musings. Between you and Joe there is always a novel to read. When you don't write I have absolutely no idea what to do with myself!
Notice that I never reveal where I'm swinging or how fast...at least not in a public forum!
You disappear then resurface everytime someone mentions anything about alcohol. Do you live in a dry town or something?
What's happening in your life? How are your kids and what have you been up to?
Oh man.....this is so hard to admit but I guess I do miss you...
Love, Bethie
AWE.... what a sweet thing to say just after you slam me!
nope.... we are pretty wet here in my little corner of the world. Although I have found things are much clearer when I stay dry!
Life is trucking right along. Nothing major to report in my life other than my son just had his 18th B-Day and I'm vacillating between the YIPPIES and the Sniffles .... you know how that goes. Both he and D12 are doing wonderfully... thanks for asking. Both are about to begin their sports again after the break. Baseball conditioning and Winter Volleyball.
It's here I come to get a little naughtiness out of my system....
Psa 51:10 Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.
and the Sniffles 
.... you know how that goes. Both he and D12 are doing wonderfully... thanks for asking. Both are about to begin their sports again after the break. Baseball conditioning and Winter Volleyball.