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It's natural for you to have questions about your consultation, especially if you've never done this before. Your coach will want to know what you are hoping to accomplish during your conversation. The clearer you can be, the more help you'll get.
On the other hand, we've been doing this long enough to know that when your spouse drops the bomb, you might not know which end is up. You're not thinking too clearly and goal-setting is not something you feel you can do at the moment. Don't worry about it. Your coach will help you get a better handle on which aspects of your situation you should focus on first.
Somewhere early in your conversation, you will want to give your coach a brief description of the problems you've been experiencing. You won't want to discuss the details of each and every argument you've had, it will take too much time. Instead, offer your coach highlights of events that have led up to your current marital problems.
You should also be ready to talk about what you've tried so far to make your relationship work- which of your efforts have paid off and which haven't. Then you and your coach will brainstorm strategies for helping you mend your marriage. Divorce Busting® coaches often give "homework assignments" to build on the ideas you discussed over the phone.
We know that when your spouse seems dead set against working things out, it can be really stressful for you and when you're hurting, it's hard to see the solutions that might lie right under your nose. We'll help you gain clarity on your situation and offer you suggestions about what to do next.
Coaching is different from counseling. If you've ever had counseling, chances are, your counselor spent lots of time helping you understand the past and why you do what you do. The theory is, if you're having a problem, you can't change until you understand the underlying psychological issues of the past and this process usually requires many sessions. We disagree. Although you might need to talk about the past to explain the problem, you will quickly be guided to what you need to do today to make things better. Our focus is on the future. Plus, we know that change can happen quickly.
Another difference is that counselors often see themselves as "experts" who help you "fix" yourself in some way. Divorce Busting® Coaches, on the hand, see themselves as "teammates" and focus on your inner strengths and resources to help you achieve your personal goals.
Coaching is a perfect model for marriages in distress because when you're in pain, you shouldn't wallow in the past because you won't find solutions there. Furthermore, by focusing on your strengths rather than your short-comings, you will feel truly resilient.
When you talk to a Divorce Busting® coach, you will understand how the Divorce Busting® principles apply to you and your spouse. Your coach will help you personalize the Divorce Busting® strategies and assist you in coming up with an action plan that fits your life circumstances, personality, values and problem-solving style. By the time you hang up, you will feel clear about the steps you need to take to create a relationship breakthrough.
Another advantage of Divorce Busting®coaching is that you can have your specific questions answered about the books or about the challenges you've been experiencing trying to mend your marriage on your own. Additionally, your coach will be your cheerleader, offering you the emotional support and encouragement you'll need to stick to your plan and get back on track when you've had a bad day. In a very real sense, you'll feel that your coach is standing on the sidelines, cheering you on as you focus your energies on repairing your relationship and maintaining a stable family life in the interim.
Ninety percent of the people who call our coaches have relationships that are teetering on the brink of divorce- there are affairs, separations, or divorces that are already in motion - and many of these relationships not only survive, they flourish. However, this is not true for everyone. There are some spouses who feel that change has come too little, too late. But years of experience has taught us that it is impossible to identify which couples will make it and which ones won't. Some relationships that are plagued with severe problems such as chronic infidelity or substance abuse become healthy again. Other people with only minor, petty problems end up calling it quits. Although we know not all marriages can be saved, we approach yours with the belief that you will beat the odds.
Another reason to call. If you're like most people who call us, you want to be thoroughly convinced that, regardless of the end result, you have tried everything humanly possible to save your marriage. People tell us that it helps them sleep at night and ultimately saves their sanity.
You can schedule a telephone consultation by calling The Divorce Busting® Center at 800-664-2435 or 303-444-7004. (If you're calling internationally, call 303-444-7004.) You can also email Virginia, Michele's assistant, at email@example.com. Include your name and a daytime telephone number. You will be contacted promptly. Or sign up for your Divorce Busting® Coaching Consultations online.
You will be given your coach's telephone number. It is up to you to call your Divorce Busting® coach at your scheduled appointment time.
Most people begin by scheduling three or six sessions with their coach. This enables them to set concrete goals, get specific advice about how to approach their spouses differently, receive helpful homework assignments to discuss results and fine tune their plans. We advise you to allow enough time in between calls for you to implement the ideas and observe signs of change. You will really feel guided step-by-step through the marriage-saving process.
Your telephone session will last approximately fifty minutes.
Divorce Busting® coaches schedules vary. However, daytime, evening and weekend hours are available.
A single 50 minute coaching session costs $175. A three-session package is $390.
A six-session package is $720. This is payable with a Visa, MasterCard or American Express at the time you schedule your initial consultation.
No. However, the cost of coaching remains extremely reasonable when you consider that you will probably require far fewer sessions than you would if you were to seek traditional counseling.
Because your coach is reserving your appointment time especially for you, we can not refund your money nor reschedule your phone consultation. For this reason, make sure you are available during the time slot you choose and remember to call your coach at your scheduled appointment time.
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