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I’ve been specializing in helping couples on the brink of divorce for nearly 4 decades. Needless to say, I’ve learned more about infidelity than I ever thought possible. I’ve worked with couples struggling with the fallout from everything from emotional affairs and one-night stands to long-lasting and multiple affairs. I’ve paid close attention to what couples find helpful when trying to rebuild and repair their marriages after betrayal and what has thwarted their progres

Having finished reading fellow (gal) blogger, Sharon Wolf’s stunningly honest post entitled, “Do as I Say, Not As I Do,” I must say that I have great respect for her courage. It takes guts to admit defeat when one is supposed to have all the answers. As a marriage therapist and best-selling author, I, too, have been fortunate to have had far more than my share of 15 minutes of fame. I brush shoulders with the best and brightest in the field. I am not surprised by her confessi

The proceeding 7 simple steps to saving your marriage are pulled directly from my book, “ The Divorce Remedy .” I’ve summarized the points to help get the wheels turning in your efforts to save your marriage. Step#1- Start with a Beginner’s Mind Buddhists believe that people should approach their lives with a beginner’s mind because in a beginner’s mind there are many possibilities, in an expert’s mind, there are but a few. To be a creative problem-solver, it is essential th

Have you ever thought to yourself, “ Our relationship would be easy if it weren’t for you? ” If so, you will definitely need to read this two-part blog. It will help you enormously. Perhaps you have noticed that blaming your partner for things that go wrong doesn’t work all that well. I have rarely met a person who, when his or her partner points the finger of blame, replies, “Well, thank you for sharing that, dear. I will have to work on it. Does this mean that when things g

The tips you’re about to read pertain to conflict-ridden conversations. I don’t think you need assistance making superficial talk or with discussions that are void of emotional content. Those are no brainers. Emotion-packed conversations are where we get in trouble. They bring out the worst in everyone. In keeping with the “ it takes one to tango ” spirit, when you change your steps in the dance of conflict between you and your guy, he’ll respond more sanely and your hea