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How Long Does it Take to Save or Improve Your Marriage?

While it is true that some people do experience immediate changes in their relationships, it’s also true that, in most marriages, change takes much longer.  How much longer? It depends on many factors: the severity of the problems, personalities of … Continue reading

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How to Make Your Spouse Want to Change

You can trigger positive change by behaving positively toward your spouse.  What do you need to do that will make your spouse feel more loving toward you and, therefore, want to go out of his/her way to please you? If … Continue reading

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What To Do After Changing Your Approach?

Before approaching your spouse with one of the many fight stoppers (all separate links) we’ve equipped you with, you will have a picture in your mind’s eye of the kind of reaction to be expecting from him/her.  If your spouse … Continue reading

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How Long Does it Take to Recover From An Affair? [Video]

Today’s video topic is “How Long Does it Take to Recover From An Affair?” In my practice, couples come to me all the time, frustrated that they haven’t yet gotten past their spouse’s act of infidelity, even if the incident … Continue reading

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A Powerful Approach to Stopping Fights: Do a 180

We’ve covered many different approaches to doing something different when confronted with challenges in your marriage.  You’ve learned how to act as if, you’ve learned that it’s easier done than said, that the medium is in the message, and you’ve … Continue reading

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How to Save Your Marriage During an Affair

A question I receive all the time is, “how can I save my marriage after my spouse has found out about my affair?” First, it’s important for people to understand that infidelity doesn’t have to be a marriage deal breaker.  … Continue reading

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Do Nothing: A Novel Approach to Solving Marriage Problems

Some people are fix-it addicts.  Fixing their marriages becomes the main focus of their lives.  The problem with this is that relationships are like see-saws: the more one person does of something, the less the other one will do.  If … Continue reading

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10 Marriage New Year’s Resolutions for 2011

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How to Approach Your Spouse: Act As If

I’ve discussed a lot of different methods recently suggesting how to approach your spouse.  Whether you try doing something different, altering the medium of your message, or rely on actions instead of words, sometimes nothing is quite as effective as … Continue reading

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Marriage Advice: Easier Done Than Said

Easier Done Than Said A variation of the “Medium is in the Message” technique, this intervention suggests that you stop using words entirely to get your messages across.  No talking on the phone, no letter writing, no e-mails, you just … Continue reading

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Is Marriage Obsolete? Michele Weiner-Davis Weighs in.

With Time Magazine’s most recent issue, Who Needs Marriage?, there has been a lot of talk in the media about if marriage is becoming obsolete.  I offer my two cents below. Michele Weiner Davis is the creator of the Divorce Busting … Continue reading

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How to Save Your Marriage in 7 Simple Steps

The proceeding 7 simple steps to saving your marriage are pulled directly from my book, “The Divorce Remedy.”  I’ve summarized the points to help get the wheels turning in your efforts to save your marriage. Step#1- Start with a Beginner’s … Continue reading

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Smart Marriages Conference 2010: Michele Weiner-Davis Presentation

Michele Weiner Davis gives a presentation at the 2010 Smart Marriages Conference about a therapist’s techniques in divorce prevention.  Although strategy can play a major role in preventing divorce, Michele highlights that a marriage therapist’s biases, beliefs, perceptions, etc., play … Continue reading

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The Medium is in the Message

I do my best to regularly contribute bits and pieces of marriage advice with my Divorce Busting social media communities.  It’s always interesting for me to read people’s examples of how they adopt the Divorce Busting approach- you guys really … Continue reading

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Physician Heal Thyself

Several weeks ago I looked out my office window and noticed tell-tale signs that Fall was upon us. With all of its beauty, Fall feels bittersweet to me- the ending of summer and the beginning of crisp evening air and … Continue reading

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