Monthly Archives: May 2011

What would Michele say? Q & A- He says he doesn’t love me.


I really love my husband. We are on the brink of divorce. For about 4 years now he has told me that he doesn’t love me 10 times, 4 times just the last year. What do I do?

It is that “Sticks and stone will break my bones but names will never harm me,” and nothing could be further than the truth. Words do sting. A lot. But your husband isn’t taking you seriously. Your words aren’t getting through to him. Sometimes, especially with men, and especially with action-oriented men like your military man, you need to take action and stop talking. He needs to feel that he might lose you if he keeps up this insensitive and unkind behavior.

I wonder if there is a place you can go with your girls if he tells you he doesn’t love you anymore? Do you have a friend or relative you can visit for a while? Also, if her pursues you when you are gone- which he might- you can tell him that your asexual relationship isn’t working for you either. Let him know that you need more intimacy and closeness.

Furthermore, tell him that you are getting used to being on your own and that you are doing ok without him. Then watch how he responds. If he comes closer, make sure that you are tough with him. Hold the line. If he pulls away, you can always reverse your position. But chance are, getting tough will be a better way to approach this situation. I bet you’re ready to do this anyway!

Look for support offered to you through he military. Sometimes there are very good resource available to military spouses!

Hang in there,


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What Would Michele Say? Q & A – Should I take him back?

My husband says he wants to come back for the kids but not me. Is this okay? Continue reading

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What Would Michele Say? Q & A- How long do affairs last?

What do you do when your spouse gets involved in a romantic affair, and says they’re going to break it off with the affair partner, but doesn’t? Continue reading

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