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About mwd27

Michele Weiner-Davis, MSW is an internationally renowned relationship expert, best-selling author, marriage therapist, and professional speaker who specializes in helping people change their lives and improve important relationships. Among the first in her field to courageously speak out about the pitfalls of unnecessary divorce, Michele has been active in spearheading the now popular movement urging couples to make their marriages work and keep their families together. She is the author of seven books including her best-selling books, DIVORCE BUSTING: A Step-by-Step Approach to Making Your Marriage Loving Again, and THE SEX-STARVED MARRIAGE: A Couple's Guide to Boosting Their Marriage Libido. Michele's work has been featured in major newspapers such as the New York Times, Los Angeles Times, Washington Post, Chicago Tribune, Wall Street Journal, and magazines such as Time, Redbook, Ladies Home Journal, Essence, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Woman's Day, Men's Health, New Woman, and McCall's. Michele is a marriage expert on Redbook's advisory board, ClubMom.com and iVillage.com. She has made countless media appearances on shows such as Oprah, 48 Hours, 20/20, The Today Show, CBS This Morning, CBS Evening News, CNN, and Bill O'Reilly. Michele's Keeping Love Alive program aired on PBS stations nationwide. She recently completed a reality based show for the BBC about helping couples save their marriages. Michele maintains that her true expertise in helping couples have great relationships is derived from first-hand experience. She and her husband have been married for more than thirty years.

7 Warning Signs Your Marriage is in Trouble

I have been doing marriage therapy for nearly three decades.  And one thing is for sure- people experiencing marital difficulties wait a long time before they get help.  In fact, research shows that, on average, people wait six years before … Continue reading

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Emotional Affairs and Infidelity

Are you thinking that your spouse or partner has a relationship with someone that makes you feel uncomfortable? Your spouse flatly denies any inappropriate interactions. Sometimes you wonder whether the relationship is physical and it drives you crazy. Other times you are not convinced that sex, touching or kissing is part of what they do together, but your instincts are telling you something is wrong. Continue reading

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Defending Marriage

As a liberal, card-carrying Democrat, I am nonetheless appalled by the Pamela White’s article “Defending Divorce.” When nearly one out of every two marriages ends in divorce, divorce hardly needs defending. Beside that, the article is filled with erroneous assumptions … Continue reading

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New Year’s Resolutions For A Rocky Marriage

When your marriage is on the rocks, you start to wonder how relationship goals that require two people’s active participation apply to you. You read articles about setting goals for the new year and you feel downtrodden and left out.  … Continue reading

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Marriage New Year’s Resolutions for 2012

Since close to one out of every two first marriages end in divorce- and generally within 4 to 7 years- with extraordinarily detrimental effects to our health, we should switch our focus from personal to relationship improvement. The health benefits … Continue reading

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Why You Haven’t Seen Change in Your Marriage (and What You Can Do to Fix It) pt. 3

Continued from Part 2.  Read Part 1 here. Your Spouse is Involved with Someone Else I don’t consider it a marital death sentence if one spouse is having either an emotional or physical affair with someone else.  I have seen … Continue reading

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Till Death Do Us Part: What Really Happened to Real Housewives’ Taylor Armstrong’s Estranged Husband, Russell Armstrong?

I don’t know Russell Armstrong at all.  Truth be told, I don’t even watch Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. But I do have something to say about Russell Armstrong’s unfortunate and untimely death. Before we chalk up his suicide to … Continue reading

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Why You Haven’t Seen Change in Your Marriage (and What You Can Do to Fix It) pt. 2

Continued from Part 1 Your attempts at change were halfhearted Sometimes when there is a lack of improvement, it is because when you’ve experimented with a technique, you only did halfheartedly.  If your heart isn’t in it when you approach … Continue reading

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Ten Things You Need to Know About Affairs

I can’t tell you the number of people who tell themselves early in marriage, “If my spouse ever has an affair, I’m outta here.” And then in happens. Their spouse was unfaithful. That’s when reality sets in. It’s easy to … Continue reading

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What would Michele say? Q & A- He says he doesn’t love me.

Answer:

I really love my husband. We are on the brink of divorce. For about 4 years now he has told me that he doesn’t love me 10 times, 4 times just the last year. What do I do?

It is that “Sticks and stone will break my bones but names will never harm me,” and nothing could be further than the truth. Words do sting. A lot. But your husband isn’t taking you seriously. Your words aren’t getting through to him. Sometimes, especially with men, and especially with action-oriented men like your military man, you need to take action and stop talking. He needs to feel that he might lose you if he keeps up this insensitive and unkind behavior.

I wonder if there is a place you can go with your girls if he tells you he doesn’t love you anymore? Do you have a friend or relative you can visit for a while? Also, if her pursues you when you are gone- which he might- you can tell him that your asexual relationship isn’t working for you either. Let him know that you need more intimacy and closeness.

Furthermore, tell him that you are getting used to being on your own and that you are doing ok without him. Then watch how he responds. If he comes closer, make sure that you are tough with him. Hold the line. If he pulls away, you can always reverse your position. But chance are, getting tough will be a better way to approach this situation. I bet you’re ready to do this anyway!

Look for support offered to you through he military. Sometimes there are very good resource available to military spouses!

Hang in there,

Michele

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What Would Michele Say? Q & A – Should I take him back?

My husband says he wants to come back for the kids but not me. Is this okay? Continue reading

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What Would Michele Say? Q & A- How long do affairs last?

What do you do when your spouse gets involved in a romantic affair, and says they’re going to break it off with the affair partner, but doesn’t? Continue reading

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Why You Haven’t Seen Change in Your Marriage (and What You Can Do to Fix It) pt. 1

If you have reached an impasse in your marriage-saving efforts, you will want to read this three-part series because it will help you diagnose the reasons you might be stuck. Don’t despair, just make sure you read this and the … Continue reading

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What To Do When Your Husband Is Going Through A Midlife Crisis [video]

In today’s video, I discuss what a wife is to do when her husband is going through a midlife crisis. Although this is a very trying time for many women, the key to getting through to the other side is … Continue reading

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Spouse Still Has Feelings For Affair Partner [Video]

In today’s video, I explain what to do if you’re a spouse who has committed an act of infidelity and you still have feelings for the affair partner. Although this is a very challenging situation, expecting your feelings to simply … Continue reading

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