“This week my husband and I celebrate our sixteenth marriage anniversary. Eight months ago I did not see this as even the most remote possibility. My husband told me he was no longer attracted to me…I was old, fat, and turning into my mother. His revelation caught me totally unaware. I had absolutely no idea our marriage was in such dire trouble. I initially experienced denial of the situation and convinced myself that I could do something to fix the way my husband felt about me. I obsessed over thinking it was my fault and believed I could remedy the problems if only I was thinner, younger looking and more attractive. Then… the ugly truth surfaced. I discovered my husband was having an affair with a woman twenty years my junior. My world imploded. I threw up every time I tried to eat, lost thirty pounds in two months, never slept, developed anxiety and panic attacks, depression, and hypertension.
Everywhere I turned for support, including my therapist, my doctor, my sister and even my husband’s mother, I got the very same advice…. file for divorce and just move on. In my shroud of hopelessness and helplessness I did just that…I filed for divorce. In doing so I felt like I had decided to commit suicide but, when it came to pulling the trigger, I just could not follow through on obtaining a divorce. I had an ever-present, nagging thought that divorce was just not the correct solution.
Research led me to your Divorce Busting Telephone Coaching program. The first day I called and spoke with your assistant I could hardly breath. Her calm and reassuring approach gave me the first hopeful moment I had experienced since my nightmare began. I began working with a coach alone as my husband would have no part of it. Her intervention immediately helped me gain perspective, insight and a sense of control back in my life. A few months into my telephone coaching sessions with my coach my husband finally quit running in the opposite direction of our marriage. I am still speaking with my coach on a regular basis and, in fact, my husband agreed to speak with her for the first time last week! I am certain that if I had not found Divorce Busting I would be embroiled in an acrimonious divorce today instead of celebrating our 16th anniversary.
I will be forever grateful to my coach and your program for giving me the tools I needed to change my behavior. I gained clarity, perspective, insight and confidence. Most importantly, I developed the courage to say no to the traditional antidote our society prescribes for infidelity……divorce.
Please accept my heartfelt gratitude for helping me choose love and save my marriage. Thank you.“