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Some people are fix-it addicts.  Fixing their marriages becomes the main focus of their lives.  The problem with this is that relationships are like see-saws: the more one person does of something, the less the other one will do.  If one person takes out the garbage all the time, the other partner won’t even think about garbage day.  If one person remembers family members’ birthdays all the time, the other partner doesn’t have to think about birthdays.  If one partner is the

I’ve discussed a lot of different methods recently suggesting how to approach your spouse.  Whether you try doing something different , altering the medium of your message , or rely on actions instead of words , sometimes nothing is quite as effective as the self-fulfilling prophecy to “Act As If”.  Below I outline exactly how you can implement this in your marriage. How to Approach Your Spouse – Act As If Problems often arise in relationships because people think they can pr

Easier Done Than Said Sometimes, trying to solve marital problems by discussing them doesn't work. Here is an idea that suggests that stop using words entirely to get your messages across.  No talking on the phone, no letter writing, no e-mails, you just take action!  Women really benefit from using this technique because we now know that men are less verbally-oriented and more action-oriented than women.  Men sometimes get overloaded with words and they stop listening.  Wh

Your marriage is in trouble. You don’t know what to do . You want unbiased professional advice, “Can or should this marriage be saved?” So, you ask around and get the name of a therapist, someone who can offer impartial feedback about the viability of your relationship. Is there enough worth salvaging, or is there too much dysfunction, too much water under the bridge? Should you reinvest or cut your losses and throw in the towel? If, in your search for answers about your marr