Find a different doctor. Ask around. Even a doc in the box will do. There's no need to have to go through the agony of dealing with that. It ridiculous of a doctor to ask someone to suffer like that.
I've gotten all these metaphors except Doc in a box. Can you elaborate on that one?
Married 9: Together 11 M:37 W:35 S:2 D:7 Bomb dropped 6/3/2017 W moved out 7/1/2017 Separation Filed: 8/1/2017 Modified to Divorce: 8/21/2017 Divorced: 10/5/2017
Well first of all, you invested a lot of time and effort into the one woman and it didn't work out but just accept it and move on. It happens! Happened to me too, I was dating one lady and thought everything was going fine and she just suddenly went dead silent on me. I thought maybe something happened to her until she unfriended me from FB, to this day I don't know what the deal was. I just wrote her off and moved on to the next one.
Originally Posted By: Jmstl
Dr says it's mental, and does nothing else. IC says "You'll get over it eventually"
They are more than likely correct. I had a lot of trouble in that regard as well. Couldn't figure out why as it had never been an issue before. Finally started taking an over-the-counter supplement that took care of that. Eventually that "supplement" was pulled due to having an ingredient that was supposed to be prescription-only apparently! Anyway I just kept it up (no pun intended!) and eventually didn't need the supplement anymore. I think it was just anxiety over having sex with someone other than my XW, it just felt like I was doing something wrong. I think we wire our brains to be faithful to that person and it takes a while to rewire our brains!
Well first of all, you invested a lot of time and effort into the one woman and it didn't work out but just accept it and move on. It happens! Happened to me too, I was dating one lady and thought everything was going fine and she just suddenly went dead silent on me. I thought maybe something happened to her until she unfriended me from FB, to this day I don't know what the deal was. I just wrote her off and moved on to the next one.
Originally Posted By: Jmstl
Dr says it's mental, and does nothing else. IC says "You'll get over it eventually"
They are more than likely correct. I had a lot of trouble in that regard as well. Couldn't figure out why as it had never been an issue before. Finally started taking an over-the-counter supplement that took care of that. Eventually that "supplement" was pulled due to having an ingredient that was supposed to be prescription-only apparently! Anyway I just kept it up (no pun intended!) and eventually didn't need the supplement anymore. I think it was just anxiety over having sex with someone other than my XW, it just felt like I was doing something wrong. I think we wire our brains to be faithful to that person and it takes a while to rewire our brains!
Yeah, AS. I think you are completely right.
I had been such a faithful husband for so long, that even now, it just feels... "off" to have another woman put her hands on me.
The problem, as I see it, is that this is creating a cycle. There are issues. Then come the negative thoughts from the issues, which fuels more issues next time.
I have tried to just clear my head and just relax, but even when I feel I have done that, things still don't work.
And I don't know how to even broach the subject.
"Oh by the way, my world got so destroyed and shattered that even though I find you really physically and mentally attractive, my stuff doesn't work?"
I would be fine takings a 'supplement' for a while, but I guess I will have to do some research.
It is humiliating.
Married 9: Together 11 M:37 W:35 S:2 D:7 Bomb dropped 6/3/2017 W moved out 7/1/2017 Separation Filed: 8/1/2017 Modified to Divorce: 8/21/2017 Divorced: 10/5/2017
Married 9: Together 11 M:37 W:35 S:2 D:7 Bomb dropped 6/3/2017 W moved out 7/1/2017 Separation Filed: 8/1/2017 Modified to Divorce: 8/21/2017 Divorced: 10/5/2017
