Kids are starting to ask me to ask her to go on a date, I just cannot do it right now and I am really considering filing within the next month.
Your kids, parents, & friends don't understand the complexities of a relationship with a WW. It's just not that simple that you can ask her out for a date. In fact, it's pursuit....which does not work. When things have reached the point that you both are working on a reconciliation, then you can date.
Yes, of course you are valuable! Look, she is the one messing up. She's the one who is wrecking her MR. It doesn't make you less valuable of desirable as a man. As you face this new year, and whatever experiences lay in store......please don't lose sight of who and what you are.
Stay focused on your moral and spiritual belief system. I want to challenge you to stay proactive in learning something new and positive for your life. Take a class course, listen to tapes while you drive, watch Ted Talks, etc. Make contact with people (outside of your children) who make you feel encouraged and challenge you in a good way. Make a point to be around energetic people, b/c it's contagious. Be with people that lift your spirits and generally just make you feel good......not just towards your situation, but just toward life. I think that's key in keeping a PMA.
