Come on, Coconut. You want us to think you don't know how to back off? Stop flirting with her. Stop sending messages with innuendos. Stop playing along with her and thinking it's just all in fun. Don't meet her at water fountain, or go to the break room when she's in there. Don't have coffee or lunch with her.
In other words, you don't have to say anything to her about your reasons for backing off. She's a married woman. Over and done, that settles it.
Btw, I applaud you for coming to the board with this update. We all experience some type of weak area at some point in our lives. I suppose that's what makes us human. The strength comes when we purposely do the right thing. Our emotions may be kicking and screaming while we do it, but our actions will lead. The emotions eventually follow the lead. That's what emotions do. Emotions are responders.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Not judging you, but keep in mind that there may already be ways for her H to stumble upon evidence, like you did not that long ago.
Last edited by Cadet; 11/03/1604:57 PM. Reason: Start a new thread message
Me: 46 W: 44 Married: 17 Together 21 D13; S10 BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you) Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)
