Focus on Me and my boys 2

[CWOL]

Yes you are correct. I view it as a gift to my boys not for her. I am not saying I will do it in the near term. There needs to be a lot of healing that needs to happen for me and the boys. Guess I am kind of an optimistic and would like to build a healthy relationship in the future. I should probably stop thinking about this right now and just focus on the day to day tasks.

Just from my outsider's view, it's not going to be healthy for them if they are just being used to extract money from you. You should just fight for sole custody if it comes down to you.

[J5K]

Doodler

Yes that would mean she would only have S2 during the day. In Ontario S4 is eligible for pre-k.

[mvgfwd2]

What do you want at the end of this? And I don't mean to be with your W, she's lost. But what do you want with regards to the kids? Fight for that and don't give in to her nonsense. And remember that a good negotiator always asks for more than they want in order to end up with the desired result. Request some things that you can give away during the negotiation so you will be seen as being able to compromise. But know what you are not willing to compromise too.

[J5K]

Mvgfwd2

I want to be able to show my boys how it is to be an independent man. I want to show them how to be compassionate and caring. They need to about forgiveness and how to love.

I. Would like them to understand that no one is perfect and that moral values are important in order to have a happy life.

How any of that equates to the number of days they spend with me, I don't know.

I am only negotiating through my lawyer.

I am a really easy going guy so I am just going to let the system run its course.

[J5K]

Wrong thread link:

Here is the correct one:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2684523&#Post2684523