Been out with the kids all day. Just back now. Decided not to visit W. Still undecided if I am going to confront her about her irresponsibility or just to brush it all off and say nothing.
My S has been a bit stressed asking for his Mum. It's very confusing for him and when we were out earlier he had a meltdown in the shopping centre. It's OK, I know what's going on, but as usual, everybody was looking at him performing and screaming. It's embarrassing, but at least we didn't get the old woman coming up and telling me how much of a naughty boy he is and I should smack his bum. That normally ends up with me telling said person to sling their hook, in a not so polite fashion!
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
I'm sorry you're dealing with this. You sound like you are patient and insightful with your son!
I don't know if I'd 'confront', but maybe rather e-mail her a very non-emotional request that if she is unable to take care of the children, she will leave them with you and not in the older daughter's care, and that you are told about hospitalizations and similar situations, just as you tell her when you are out of the country and such. And end it 'thank you'.
That way you have it documented and you avoid the potential for a verbal dispute.
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17
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