WAW Filed for Divorce Next Day Pt. 3 (Bob)

[Bob723]

I guess only the passage of time will convince her that I am working on my flaws.

Bob,

Its possible, but its also possible she may never see them. Its hard getting to the point where you accept either possibility happening, but your doing the right things as best you can. Its out of your control, but you should still be proud of your efforts. Keep moving forward, you got this.

Hello Fogg,

Thank you for the encourgement!! It means so much to me, Fogg.

Bob

[Bob723]

Hi Bob. Just to echo Fogg. The N/C is a multi functional tool. It gives W something she wants and gives Bob some relief from the sitch. I know you keep upto date with my sitch and I find it very hard to see W most days and hear from her everyday. We never have a cross word and W is often very upset , this does nothing to help with my detachment

Re the phone , perfect , you did the right thing in my opinion You tried to pay but couldn't Leave it at that and if W ever mentions it again you can tell her what happened

Take care Mate. Your doing well. Rd

Hello Rd,

You are another one of the caring folks on this forum that I care about so much!

It sounds like you totally understand. Sorry you are going thru this, too.

And, thank you for the encourgement. It means so much to me Rd!

Bob

[Bob723]

Bob - Woah... You blew through a 10 page thread in 7 days!

Hey Mahhhty,

Make that 11 now.

I wonder if that is some sort of "unofficial" record for this forum?

Most of it is probably me rambling on....LOL

Thanks for checking in, sir!

Bob

[Elly4]

As the LBH, I'm praying that my WAW has noticed, and will continue to notice, my self-control in the coming weeks. I have done my best to not contact her for several weeks, except for the text where I asked about her folllow-up doctor appoinment. This is a complete 180 for me. I guess only the passage of time will convince her that I am working on my flaws.

I think part of the problem for you here Bob, and for us all, is for us to do our best and put the rest up to God. We, as humans, seem to be driven to problem solving and just sitting is hard for us all.

Just have faith that whatever is best for Bob will be what happens. Of course I say this knowing that I too am struggling with letting go of the outcome and just live the journey. Zephyr made a comment to me about finding out what makes me happy. His comment is much more elegant, feel free to check out my thread, but it was very thought provoking for me.

*hugs*
E

Please start a new thread - Cadet

[Bob723]

Hello Eirinn, very well said and true! I will check your thread for Zephyr's post.

Hello Cadet, you got it. Coming up:

WAW Filed for Divorce Next Day Pt. 4 (Bob

[Bob723]

Part 4 thread:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2565234&#Post2565234

Bob