You're doing great, finish it as quickly as you can Sounds like a bit of remorse is starting. Idk if she cycles into normal and present again, but please be careful. When they're lucid it's so hard to not want to believe. But I think you're truly past that.
The one thing I worry most about is your son. My abusive/alc/narc father used to do this to me as a very young kid about my mother. I saw through it then, but it's miserable. Becoming withdrawn and detached, living as though you're watching your life from the outside...it can have very real long term effects. Please keep him in therapy/counseling, even just talking to trusted aunts and uncles as much as you can.
