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HELP PLEASE,

I had my coaching call last night and am now more confused. My coach said I should tell my ww how hurt I was to find out about om, and that I believe and trust her that she will do the right thing and that I love and respect her enough to let her go. She said that I should keep building the frinedship we have been for these last 3 months, and that she is in a fog. I should tell her that this whole sitch has been a wake up call for me and that I am making changes for myself and d regardless of the outcome for us.

My best friend told me last night that my ww texted him and said, I dont know if you are aware of what is going on, I dont know if I told him anything, but that she hopes I am using my best friend for support. She wanted him to make sure I was ok because she didnt think I would talk to her for awhile and that I might hide.
So I want to do the opposite of what she thinks I would do, I want to talk to her tonight, and I dont want to hide. By hide she meant emotionally and not dealing with it. I want to open up and tell her something, should it be what the coach told me, Sandi it is very different than what you advised. I need advice fast .

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Me:47
W:47
D:12
T:27yrs.
M:17yrs.
S:10/14
Wife wants legal sep., which can be divorce after 1 yr.
om b 7/15 but probably a lot longer
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I think as long as you can stay detached and keep your expectations at zero then you should do exactly what your coach has advised.

Also please start a new thread as you are now at 101 posts.


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Thanks Cadet,

It feels right to do, time will tell.

Not sure how to start new thread, my w was the techie.

Last edited by help67; 07/08/15 04:17 PM.

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W:47
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M:17yrs.
S:10/14
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om b 7/15 but probably a lot longer
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Originally Posted By: help67
Not sure how to start new thread, my w was the techie.

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