Going through D

[ho2mh]

I wrote my W a letter last week. This is what I wrote:

I take responsibility for what has happened. I should have been more attentive and listened to what you were saying. I know it's too late but wanted you to know that I'm sorry and hope you can forgive me someday.


She replied with an email:

I got your letter. Thank you. I do forgive you. I truly hope that you find a way to not feel angry and enjoy life.

I didn't want to hurt you, but it is impossible to separate without causing pain. I hope that you can forgive me one day too.


Thoughts anyone?

[MrBond]

Not exactly sure what thoughts there could be. I mean you sent the message, she accepted. Doesn't exactly help your situation though.

[ho2mh]

Mr. Bond,

Think I shouldn't have sent the letter?

[MrBond]

Doesn't matter what I think. You sent it already. No sense worrying about it now. Now you have to accept the consequences. While you were in the wrong for many of your marriage offenses, you didn't always have to bring them up.

Have you thought of writing a letter apologizing to her family for not being around? Even if you think they were wrong, if you want to show you've changed, that may be a step.

[ho2mh]

"While you were in the wrong for many of your marriage offenses, you didn't always have to bring them up."

Not sure what you mean. Can you elaborate?

[MrBond]

Go back and read what you sent her...

"I take responsibility for what has happened. I should have been more attentive and listened to what you were saying. I know it's too late but wanted you to know that I'm sorry and hope you can forgive me someday."

Is this the last impression you want her to have of you? That you're the one who is responsible for her being unhappy? That could be true, but you want to leave your W with POSITIVE thoughts about you. Not just negative.

What about the letter to her family?

[ho2mh]

"Is this the last impression you want her to have of you? That you're the one who is responsible for her being unhappy? That could be true, but you want to leave your W with POSITIVE thoughts about you. Not just negative."

I understand what you are saying. You are right.


"What about the letter to her family?"

I haven't wrote a letter to her family. I'm not even sure what to say to them.

[MrBond]

Think hard.