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sandi2 #2515586 12/09/14 07:42 PM
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Thanks sandi and as always I know you are right I need to get back to improving ME and not be concerned about what she says and things I can not control

Today she invited me for dinner again and I again turned down the invite, then she sends me a text saying
Have I done something to offend you
I get the feeling you have been off
with me for a few days
and I would rather you spit it out

It looks like me not accepting all her invites makes her feel I'm been grumpy with her which I'm not
Anyway I told her I was fine with her, and we had a little joke about something my mother did that we both found funny

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Time to get mysterious again, I have changed the kid's night from Friday to Saturday this week and given no reason lol

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Had bad news today W can not get help with housing costs as she is part owner of the house I live in, which means we will have to sell the house as I can not afford to buy her out, I did mention that she could move back in to our house but she said there is No way we will be living together, so that's it nowhere near busted here.

I'm totally going to change tactics now as been her good friend doesn't seem to get me anywhere
From now on no more playing happy family's at her home its going to be pick up the kids and away I go as soon as possible, no more little favours for her, no more financial support than the minimum I have to pay, I'm basically going to move on with my life I'm done with her

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Well it's time for a FUN night with friends we're off to see a band in a local bar.
PMA through the roof tonight I know it won't last but I will enjoy it while I can lol

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Good for you - live music is always a great way to lift spirites and GAL. I hope you enjoyed


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Thanks Naj I had a really great time


As I posted earlier I have changed my tactics and today she text me about how she can not pay her rent, I have text her back to say she should find herself a man who will move in and pay her rent
I love her but I'm not taking more of her crap

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As I posted earlier I have changed my tactics and today she text me about how she can not pay her rent, I have text her back to say she should find herself a man who will move in and pay her rent
I love her but I'm not taking more of her crap


Not the best of responses to give.

I think it would have been better to just say something like, "Considering our situation, it's best if I decline from the position as your advisor".


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Just a small update

OM is out of the picture and is now in a relationship with her best friend

I have backed right off from W the last couple of weeks apart from Christmas day when I had dinner with her family after much pressure from the kids to join them

S7 has been spending lots of time at my house at his request which seems to be irritating W

Yesterday W seemed to reach out to me by text
just to say that she would ohhh so love one of my steak dinners,
so I text her back that I would do one for me and her at a time and date when we are both free
She text me back just name the time and date and she will be there

So this push pull dance continues

oh and i got asked out on a date by a woman i got chatting to on boxing day night but i have not taken her up on the offer

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My changes and PMA are now flowing so naturally
I don't think I have ever felt this good about myself
Everyone I come in to contact with seem to buzz of my new energy

The kids want to be with me all the time
The MIL she adores me
The SIL could talk forever I have to make my excuses to leave LOL
The BIL well were best buddy's through all of this

Lots of attention from the lady's including from married friends wife's which wont be happening how ever much they flirt

Been told I'm handsome by a lady
Been told I'm beautiful by a lady
Been asked out for dates a few times
Friends often call me me to socialise
Work friends male and femail ask me to socilise with them

W well she continues to be friendly and seems to like contact But there never is any discusion of R
She asks all the time about my social life
But she seems to be the only person in the world that can not see the changes i have made both physically and mentaly




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It's 10 month now since she walked out
I have been using some unconventional methods to win her back
A lot of alpha male [censored] as the been good friends was just not cutting with her not working
Things are looking promising I could have her back very soon fingers crossed smile

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