How to Proceed

[getrite]

So, I stood up for myself today. I went to pick the kids up to go school supply shopping. While I was there, I told her that I wanted to talk to her. She has been having a summary of my cell phone usage emailed to her and I told her that was not right. I also decided to tell her that I am not a plan B. I told her that whatever agents going theougj right now is really not my concern and that if she didn't find what she was looking for, that I couldn't guarantee her inqould still be there waiting at the end. I told her that I was sick and tired of her making me feel like crap and I not having it anymore, that I am moving on. She immediately started with the do you think we can come back from this text messages. I didn't fall into the trap. I told her that I don't know and that I have a lot of work to so on myself. That's all, such a great feeling to get all of that off my chest.

[Starsky309]

Good for you!! Proud of you, bro.

Now, expect her to test you. And it may swing wildly from syrupy sweet (even attempts at affection and/or sex) to anger and spew.

Stand your ground.


Starsky

[getrite]

That has already started. Truth is, I'm not so sure that I want to work it out at this moment. I feel so good about me right now. This whole thing has made me see her character and I don't like it. I'm tired of being beat down.

[sandi2]

Yea! You stood up to her, and you didn't kill over! If you don't recognize these feelings.....it's called self-respect.

Glad you are feeling better about yourself. It should help you with more confidence.

[getrite]

I had to. I was sick and tired of being sick and tired. I am in such a better place since I did It. I don't know if it's because I took control, but I really have no desire to be with her today. Not sure if that will change over time, but I feel GREAT! I am going to meet her tonight so she can take my cell phone off of the bill and move it to its own separate bill. I insisted on this because she was getting all of my usage emailed to her. I'm not doing anything wrong, I just feel like my privacy during this separation was being violated.

[sandi2]

How you doing?

[getrite]

I am doing great. I totally detached. Haven't felt better in a long time. Truth is, I don't think I want to save the marriage. How she has handled herself has made me see her character. This is not the first time. I want it to be the last, but I'm not so sure anymore. I have been hanging out with my daughters. I even went out one night and ran into a blast from the way way past.

[Starsky309]

I have been hanging out with my daughters. I even went out one night and ran into a blast from the way way past.

Ruh-rohh . . .