Sorry, Bond, I was not aware of the personal friction and comments on previous posts, when I responded the way I did on this thread. You have always had my back and I appreciate you for it.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
No problem sandi. I just don't much appreciate it when someone goes and accuses me of something that isn't true, while at the same time doesn't say anything about themselves.
Thanks for the support.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Oh I stumbled upon this and wondered this same thing about JCred. I did not want to hijack Maybell's thread (although I probably did) and then I saw his. Btw, I always enjoy reading your posts Mr. Bond, Labug and Sandi. Very insightful. Thanks for helping others here.
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
I've tried to answer this a couple of times, but my replies still haven't shown up..... I will try to post this again.
I'm a former WS. I thought I could help others from my experience(s). I've read both DR and DB and respect Michelle's work and thought this was a great site to share my thoughts to those who are hurting and looking for some answers and guidance.
Remember... When GAL, find something that you are passionate about...something that puts a bounce in your step.... Learn to laugh and find something to laugh about every day because laughter is a great medicine.
Food for thought... Michelle says in DB..
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Another reason traditional therapy can be uncomfortable is that a trademark of many of these approaches is confrontation. The therapist boldly confronts clients about behavior considered self-destructive or unproductive. Sometimes these attacks occur before a person is willing to deal with an issue or are totally inconsistent with a person's self-concept. Naturally this harsh and dissonant feedback is disturbing and, in my experience, rarely effective in helping a person change. Typically , one digs one's heels in deeper when feeling attacked.
Confrontation is not necessary during therapy. Most people take the initiative to address issues and concerns they are willing to change. If they don't raise certain issues, it's because they are not willing or ready to deal with them.
