My wife left

[Liboicl]

My anniversary is coming up on Saturday. I've been reading Love Must Be Tough through some more. Based on some stuff that I read in the book I want to write a message to my wife.
I thought I'd check the opinions on here before I do that. I remember before that it depends on why I am writing it. Well, I want to just say how that I may not have been the perfect husband, but the entire time that we were together I never once did anything with another woman. I want to tell her to do whatever she wills, as we both have to answer to God and my conscience is clear. I also want to express that if she wants to talk to me about the whole situation, I am willing to listen, but if not I am currently, and will continue to, purge myself of any feeling I have for her. I want to mention that it is hard due to her being my one and only love, but that I will be okay.
Now for as what I hope to accomplish. I don't really expect a response, so I don't care how she takes it. I mainly want to let her know that I am not just going to sit here for the rest of my life waiting for her and that I have a handle on the situation.

[Liboicl]

The message I am talking about wasn't directly related to our anniversary. That was really just two separate thoughts, but thoughts are welcome on both. Thank you in advanced.

[Thornton]

Are you prepared to absolutely drop the rope? Because there's a chance she may not respond?

[sandi2]

In other words, you want to have another R talk.

[GoatGal]

I'm with Thorn and Sandi here.

[Liboicl]

Are you prepared to absolutely drop the rope? Because there's a chance she may not respond?

I'm not sure what you're saying. Is that a cautionary question or are you asking if that's what I was implying?

In other words, you want to have another R talk.

Putting it that way makes it sound like a bad idea, but I guess that is how it is. I assume it was not a wise decision. I get in those moods sometimes and am not sure what to do. Especially with all of this coming up. Thanks for keeping me on track. That's why I make sure to post things on here.

[Liboicl]

It's been a long time since my last post. When I posted that I almost felt ready to give up completely. My feelings are extremely weird now. I was starting to question whether or not I still loved my wife. I had some friends over who were talking about the whole situation and I realize that I do still love her, but I'm afraid of the pain that acknowledging that causes.

I've been trying to get back in college, one of my goals, but I figured out I don't qualify for financial aid and I can't afford to go back unless I take out a private loan. I am also moving soon. I'm planning on renting a place with a couple of friends. My wife has still not got the rest of her stuff. I was thinking I'd message her and telling her I was moving and that her stuff was in the apartment. Is that a good plan?

Also, my wife has been telling people, trustworthy sources, that I said I wanted this divorce and agreed that we shouldn't have gotten married. I don't want to talk to her and I don't want her thinking that. Should I just ignore it? I've told the sources the truth about how I feel.

[pilot]

I am also moving soon. I'm planning on renting a place with a couple of friends. My wife has still not got the rest of her stuff. I was thinking I'd message her and telling her I was moving and that her stuff was in the apartment. Is that a good plan?

Good plan if you are moving in a couple of days, bad plan if you are moving in a month. You are looking for a reason to contact her when you really do not need to. I'd wait until you had a moving date set, and contact her a day or two before hand. No reason to contact her weeks/a month ahead of time.

Also, my wife has been telling people, trustworthy sources, that I said I wanted this divorce and agreed that we shouldn't have gotten married. I don't want to talk to her and I don't want her thinking that. Should I just ignore it? I've told the sources the truth about how I feel.

Ignore it. She will rewrite your marriage history. Believe none of what she says, and only half of what she does.