There seems like so much stuff to figure out, how do you know where to begin. Iplayed horrible game with my husband emotions and lie to him for the last 8 months finally, at Chritmas time I told him the whole truth, because I lied so long to so long he says he doesn't know if he will ever be able to believe me again.
1. Get my husband to trust me again 2. Prove to him that it is safe to be in love with me not just love me 3. Spend more quality time talking and having fun together 4. Help him fullfil our dreams together
Hi Well obviously my overall goal is to have my H move back in and want to give our R everything we've got, but in the mean time: I will breathe I will eat food everyday I will sleep every night I will not call him 67 times in one night -(accept that he does not want to talk to me right now) I will find something to bring me happiness (a hobby) I will tell my friends that they are wonderful everytime they have to hear me bawling uncontrolably I will not be ashamed of H leaving - I am still a good person I will not focus on everything I have lost (future children, growing old together, best friend) all day every day I will quit smoking soon and stop using them as a crutch
Thats all I have right now. As he is not in contact with me and has no desire to fight for us I guess that all I can hope for - just to look after me. But I REALLY want him to miss me and come back - we really were happy and the R was not bad.
I need to understand why he is so unhappy.
I would love to have goals like some of the others here - to have a goal of holding his hand or going out to dinner with him seems almost impossible but o so desirable.
I want to stop dwelling on the past and look to the future Organize my thoughts and get counceling. Get my wife to go to counceling and work with me to save the M Get my wife to laugh with me again get my wife to hug me again Get my wife to love me again Get my wife to live with me again
My goals, long term: 1. H will consider possibility of staying together. 2. H will return to some sort of counselling with me.
Short term: 1. I will listen to H when he tells me about his day without expectation of an invication to reciprocate. 2. I will place my hand or foot on him for a moment without him flinching.
1-I would like to stop pursuing my H-stop calling and initiating all contacts 2-I would like to stop spending every waking moment thinking about our Marraige 3-I would like to not feel uncomfortable complimenting my H 4-I would like to have a more interesting life-have fun, have more friends 5-I want my H to see that I have changed and that we can have a peaceful joyful life 6-I want him to feel that he is pleasing me and not feel like not trying because he feels he can't 7-I want him to feel that I respect him-value his opinion
My Goals: I want H home by March. I will not have sex with H until he is home. I will not be defensive with H. I will not lose my temper or raise my voice to H. I will show H that I respect him. I will be happy with me even if H doesn't come home. I will never lose myself again. I want to trust H again, completely. I want our family to be a priority over his work and kung fu.
1. I wnat H to talk to me and not just the girls. 2. I want H to want to get back together. 3. I want H to go out on date 4. I want H to apologize for what happened. 5. I want to figure out how I controlled husband.
I want to stop dwelling on the past and look to the future Organize my thoughts and get counseling Get my wife to go to counseling, and want to work to save our 12 yr marriage. Get my wife to laugh with me again Get my wife to hug me again Get my wife to love me again Get my wife to live with me again Get my wife to want me again
