Wow, do your g's sound a lot like mine. I tried to prioritize, short term, long term. It's hard. -H call and ask to speak to me, even when kids answer. -have some physical contact -H continue wanting to work on M -H start wearing Wed. ring again -go on date w/out kids -hear H goals -H move back home -when H visiting, talk to me about stuff nonchild related -H give a compliment to me -hear positives about R
I have a few specific goals set at this point, but they require some type of communication, which there has been none since March 1. I've tried sending an e-mail but got no response. I don't want to appear as though I am chasing W, but if I can't get a communication through, how can we work on R?
Druis.
"Yesterday is a dream, and tomorrow is a vision.
But today well-spent creates dreams worth having."
I have always been terrible at goal setting. I could see major goals and would go after them, but writing stuff down and making minor steps always felt kind of false to me.
Any how here goes nothing.
1)Eliminate quirky/annoying habits. 2)Act as a peer and not a parent to spose. 3)Accept her for what she is and quit trying to push her in the direction I want. 4)Don't go into "hover" mode when she is getting ready to go to work. 5)Don't give her guilt trips about the demand of her job on me and family. Let her enjoy her job. 6)Show unconditional love. 7)Be more pro-active in keeping up with day to day things. ie chores, repairs, personal maintenance. 8)Keep a happy positive demeanor, even when things are going tough. 9)Have positive, constuctive relationship discussions with spouse. Stay calm, no inquisitions, do it in a loving manner. 10)Make positive changes listed and make them permanant. 11)Find out what works and be happy with what you have found.
Hopefully I'm fairly close on these goals. Any pointers would be appreciated.
