And I think she'd likes it that I don't NGS the fact that it isn't every night like I did for years before.
Hey Steve,
Leading on from the erotic texting suggestions, if you haven't tried it is it worth thinking about leading that further into a suggestion you're popping home for lunch and don't plan on eating food, or something along those lines (I understand she's a stay at home mum?)? Your wife may go wild if you show up at home dressed in suit and tie and lead from there (hint - loosen the suit, but keep it on)?
Sorry if I'm being crass - just sharing what I used to do that worked.
Good luck mate
Me: early 40's XW: nearly 50 T: 15 M: 5 BD: Jan 19 S:10 SS: 22 SD: 24
And I think she'd likes it that I don't NGS the fact that it isn't every night like I did for years before.
Hey Steve,
Leading on from the erotic texting suggestions, if you haven't tried it is it worth thinking about leading that further into a suggestion you're popping home for lunch and don't plan on eating food, or something along those lines (I understand she's a stay at home mum?)? Your wife may go wild if you show up at home dressed in suit and tie and lead from there (hint - loosen the suit, but keep it on)?
Sorry if I'm being crass - just sharing what I used to do that worked.
Good luck mate
Thanks DS9! I like this idea.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
There was another email from the guy saying he was getting on the game in a few minutes to play against her. With a couple of love.kiss smilies. No response from her. It was from Sunday night (I had my date's wrong and the other messages were from Saturday). I don''t think she got on the game that night, and there was no response from her. So I continue to get the impression that this is a pretty one-sided thing from his end, again probably based on her profile pic (which is amazing).
Glad to hear it! This is good news, validating your hypothesis that she realized she let it go too far and then deleted the messages with plans to move on. May being the best Steve you can be, be fun for you both.
Well it is too early to declare victory. But it is a good sign.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Good stuff mate. Let your imagination run wild with these texts. If you have an iphone, there's an invisible ink thing you can click before sending the text. It makes the letters go blurry and sparkly so your wife can't read them initially. Your W will have to run her fingers over the text to make the letters appear. My XW loved these mystery invisible ink texts.
Me: early 40's XW: nearly 50 T: 15 M: 5 BD: Jan 19 S:10 SS: 22 SD: 24
So I started asking her about the chat capabilities in the game are plays. Turns out that if your friends with someone, you can chat with them. If they aren't friends you are limited to the canned messages.
Something his last email said that concerned me, he said: I'll be on -game- in a little while when it's safe. To challenge you or play your challenge.
My new theory....... Email is just a way to communicate off the game. The conversation turns inappropriate when they are chatting on the game.
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M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
I then asked her if anyone had ever given her contact information in this chat. She said no. I said never? She said if they had she do anything with it.
So I said, you mean you've never communicated with -name-? Her: no. Why? Me: you don't know who -name is-? Her: no.
Look on her face is complete shock.
I said: because i think you do.
Then our daughter interrupted and wanted to go to get some food. I told her to take her.
I'm sure more will come......
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
"when it's safe" does have a huge red flag hanging over it. Otherwise I wouldn't get concerned about it. Main thing now is not to let your emotions take over. Do what ever needs to be done but don't do anything you'll regret in the longrun. We are here for you bro! Keep posting! You got this!
Me:39 W:36 S:12 D:9 T:14 M:11 Separation:sep. 1 2017 D filed oct. 2017 D finalized july 2018 OM confirmed feb 2018 D finalized July 2018
The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.
Thanks Petri. However I couldn't handle her lies knowing she was emailing this guy off the game. It was too much to hold in. My DBing training kicked in and I was calm as a cucumber. I would have been interested to see where it went before my daughter interrupted. I'm in the MBR now, she's in the family room. You can cut the tension in here with a knife.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
We all are human. We have our limits to everything. I think you made the right call to call her out on this. But the question is: what now? Any chance to pick up on the convo later on?
Me:39 W:36 S:12 D:9 T:14 M:11 Separation:sep. 1 2017 D filed oct. 2017 D finalized july 2018 OM confirmed feb 2018 D finalized July 2018
The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.
