Do not sign the paper work. Review it. Figure out if things are split equal. This is where a Lawyer can give you legal advise. Do not drag your feet on this.
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So, the paperwork has nothing to do with financials. It's just the "petition for divorce" which starts the legal process in my state (in the US). This begins the 3 month waiting period before a D can happen. All of the financial stuff comes later after we mediate or the lawyers come into play. I do not plan to sign until I've reviewed them thoroughly.
I'm going to take the trip. Btw, I GALed the hell outta today. Took my dog on a long hike, went to a woodworking class (something that is totally out of my element), and hung out with a good friend that was amazingly supportive. D papers were gone from where W left them when I got home. I looked all over the place and could not find them. W was asleep when I got home, but I feel like I should ask where they are - I only have 20 days to review, and would like to read them before anything happens.
Me 36, W 32 M 3 yrs, T 7 yrs 1st BD Aug 18 2nd BD Feb 19 EA w/ ex Aug 18 potential EA Feb 19 Trial Separation 3/2/19
Please start a new thread and link your two threads together. Thanks!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Don't go searching for the divorce papers. Your W can't present them, then hide them, the pop up in court and say you saw them once for 20 minutes. There's no rush, you would need time to review with your lawyer anyways.
I have a feeling that you are actually looking for them for another reason.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
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