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Well there was no official talk but it was obvious she wanted to classify it, put a label on it and it was her idea to weed that into a texting conversation.

On the other I think part of it is the newness of the R. No we don't have to engage in sex every time but during the week when her son goes to bed at 7:30 and arrive at 8 we only have about 1.5 hours to just hang. We could spend it watching shows or just hanging out so I get the point. The weekend we went to her Ranch was really fun which was the first time we did something different outside of the dinner, drinks, and sex. This was clear some brush,. shoot some guns, dinner, drinks, watch the sunset, and sex! smile

Our weekend schedules are now off as this is my off weekend but she has her son. They won't be aligned again until the end of April.

She ended up not being mad about me not going over so that was a non-issue.


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Originally Posted by TBSakaJ9
Well there was no official talk but it was obvious she wanted to classify it, put a label on it and it was her idea to weed that into a texting conversation.

On the other I think part of it is the newness of the R. No we don't have to engage in sex every time but during the week when her son goes to bed at 7:30 and arrive at 8 we only have about 1.5 hours to just hang. We could spend it watching shows or just hanging out so I get the point. The weekend we went to her Ranch was really fun which was the first time we did something different outside of the dinner, drinks, and sex. This was clear some brush,. shoot some guns, dinner, drinks, watch the sunset, and sex! smile

Our weekend schedules are now off as this is my off weekend but she has her son. They won't be aligned again until the end of April.

She ended up not being mad about me not going over so that was a non-issue.


I keep telling Sparky some weekend, I'm going to take him to my dad's to help work cows. He said I'm so romantic. LOL There is something to be said for that kind of thing, though, and it was such a HUGE part of my childhood that I need someone who can jump in there and help still because my dad isn't getting any younger and at some point, all that he has will be ours and we will have to do all the work.


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That's right D....find out what S is made of! I don't mind getting my hands dirty, it's good for the soul.


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Dawn - beef or dairy cattle? How many head? Are taking over the operation when your father goes or just can't physically do it anymore?

J- My own advice for what its worth is to not be too routine. Change it up, from my experience women seem to get bored faster than men.


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Originally Posted by Twofeet
Dawn - beef or dairy cattle? How many head? Are taking over the operation when your father goes or just can't physically do it anymore?


Beef cattle and dairy goats (cows are dad's, goats are stepmom's) with a few horses thrown in for good measure and a handful of pigs so that we have farm-fresh sausage, bacon and pork chops. My siblings and I will take over when my dad is unable to do it anymore, though, I figure when that time comes, it will be when he's dead and gone because he's a rough and tumble cowboy and he's not ever going to admit he can't physically do anything anymore. Time will tell, but for now, we all help out where and when we can and mainly, when he will let us. He's a prideful man so he isn't always so ready to accept help, even from his own kids. But occasionally, he'll actually ask for help under the guise of helping one of us out. Like recently, he asked me if I needed to practice running a head gate for old time's sake. I, of course, said I certainly did (not really, but you do for family, right?).


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I like how my thread goes from sex, dating then to the topic of cows! That is pretty funny. Rendezvous night tonight with the dr at 8 pm.....it is going to be a legit hump day. Maybe if I am lucky I can slip in a little hot yoga and thc.....winks at G!


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The evening went great even with no yoga or thc!! She is continuing to bring up the kids and asking me about activities I do with them over the summer, etc so I know she is getting close. Our next planned date is Saturday night, her mom is going to watch her son.


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Yoga and thc makes everything better!

But we didn’t do yoga last night, lol. We mapped my house for electrical rewording and adding outlet and then bought the supplies on Home Depot. Just as fun.

Well, if you really see a committed future with her, I guess you should start thinking about it

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No red flags G she is perfectly normal. My interest is growing and I feel myself getting more comfortable. I do still get pretty nervous before I see her though but once I am around her it goes away.


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Nobody is perfectly normal.

Red flags is not the issue.

If you still get nervous around her , probably not time to put the kids around her.

Unless you are seeing a committed future, wait, I’m telling you!!! I know there are no guarantees, but you should be able to say that is what you want with her whether or not it actually pans out

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