Yeah....just go with the flow. We have fun when we go out, enjoy the sex, and while I know she is open to more neither one of us are pressuring each other. I think it also helps me get more comfortable so I am grateful for her being chill over it. She knows that I have not been in a R that has lasted over a month as well so I do know that makes her a little nervous. I also know she is wanting something long term and that is ok it doesn’t scare me and I do appreciate the pace. She did love the flowers!
J- there really is nothing to talk about or define. You guys are dating, getting to know eachother. What would be "something a little more " than you have now? You guys are having dates, talking to eachother, having sex..... You aren't seeing anyone else. There isn't much more to have at this point. Kids come later, maybe meeting some friends? But other than that, there isn't much more to have at this point, expect to keep having dates. and they sound like great dates and you even have sexting in between.
M and I never had an R talk. except when he used to make jokes about "other dudes" and I said "you are the only dude in my life. am I the only chick in your life?" and since then, it was pretty much known that we were together. Everything has been a progression of actions otherwise. Christmas eve with the bro, sil and mom. Now the kid meetings after the card that pretty much told me he sees the future with me.
SO, there's no reason for an R talk now. Unless you want to not date anyone else right now.
There truly is no where else to take it but day by day.
you could do what I did. I don't even know how to deactivate my profile. I was DONE with online dating and he was my last go. I just deleted my apps on phone after the first date. Whether or not it worked out, I was done for a long while. Gave me no temptation to see if he was still on. I think it's just easier to not talk about it, not snoop on it, and just let natural progression take control. You'll know if she I dating others, trust me.
Well the dr just left and we had another fun night but man I am tapped out. My 45 yr old body just cant operate like a 20 yr old any more. I am tired from lack of sleep last night plus all the indoor Olympics. She paid for dinner tonight which was really cool and she just left about 10 min ago. I wont see her again until Friday which is actually cool. I will say I do need a break since we saw each other 3 times this week, two of which was her idea. She is very much a man in regards to her post sex activity. She is very touchy feely and sexual but wasted no time in leaving tonight once our activities were over with. I still have a little anxiety but I hope it continues to diminish with time.
Lol....well now that’s created the post divorce dating thread mine should slow down. Great weekend with basketball and soccer games. My youngest scored a goal and had a really nice cross so it was really fun to watch. Basketball season ended so I am happy to have a break from coaching. There is a summer league that my youngest will prob want to play in. I have the girls this week so we have soccer practice almost every night this week and then games on sat. Spring soccer is my favorite!
Saw the dr this am at the gym which was nice. We walked out together and gave each other a quick kiss in the parking lot. It was kind of weird being in a public place that I frequent with people that know me. It was ok though. I won’t see her again on Friday night.
Well I found out he took the xw and my girls out for valentines day so I guess not although something seems off to me. The funny thing is that she told me she was taking them out and made no mention of him to me. You would think after all this time she would just be honest but she never brings him up to me and neither do the girls.
