This is a situation where "just the tip" comes to the rescue. You know, it doesn't really count, right? You might be able to fit it in before the 21st.
Guys don't push fast for a relationship. They push fast for sex, and will lie about the relationship thing to get the sex. Total assumption, but I am guessing guys will be like "sure, we are in a relationship", have sex with her and then dump her.
She probably thinks when guys do have sex you will honor the fact you are now committed to her.
Yup, mindreading. but I am pretty good at reading other women's minds.
Maybe she wants me to push fast for a R or sex so she can enter into a R and make it seem right in her mind. IDK I also think her waiting and making guys get a blood test could weed out those guys just looking to hook up with her.
Personal preference I guess assuming that is what both parties are looking for. Although most people that casually date I assume have not met someone they would consider getting into a R with. I will say after running into HG that I can see where getting tested makes sense. She could have easily not have disclosed to me and passed it on which I assume happens relatively frequently.
We have had this conversation before. There are some people out there that can casually have sex and other people that need to be in a relationship.
For me personally, i need to be in an exclusive relationship with someone i trust to have sex. There needs to be a build up of attraction. Like i would not just meet a random guy at a bar and sleep with him because he is good looking. That would not be a turn on for me. But getting to know him, knowing that he he is really turned on by me would then turn me on. Its the anticipation in the beginning. If i thought he was sleeping with other women and pursuing other women it would turn me off and we would not evolve. It would be an insult to my pride. Maybe other women see this as competition i guess, but it depends on the woman.
I think once you sleep with this woman, she is gonna assume you are exclusive. She is being direct with you. If you dont see potential for exclusivity with her, dont pursue.
Based on how i would view it, she might see it as right now we are sleeping exclusively together. As we continue dating and getting more comfortable we will see if the relationship gets stronger or fizzles out in which case no more sleeping together. To me this makes sense. How can you really get to know someone if you are sleeping with other people at the same time?
I am taking a three week break for the holidays. My 4 dates in 6 nights were busts (though one led to sex) lol and I just got ghosted after a some solid back and forths.
I read Jan 6th is the busiest day of the year for OLD. Need some fresh meat lol!
