Sorry to hear of your sitch. Redirect your attention to anything else to help you regain your strength. Don't dwell on her. Focus on you. Its a good idea to stay out of Social Media or just away from her, I'm 43 so I throw my phone in the drawer when I get home. I don't FB, IG, snapchat or w/e else ppl do.
H 49 , W 47 T 23, M 17 S11, S5 BD: 7/18 IHS: 7/18 - 3/19 Physically Separated: 3/19-4/19 Piecing: 4/19 - Current
Thanks Nicole, really appreciate your kind words. I can only compare this whole scenario like a Hit and run.
I'm left on the side of the road, broken and hurt as she has drives away with her AP.
I have been NC with her for 2 months. She hasn't responded to my solictor yet.
I was doing well and feeling stronger, until she changed her pic on Saturday. Seeing them together, with a very smug almost evil grin on them hurt like a knife in the heart.
She changed it again to something random the following day. They're both cheaters, liars and one day i pray karma will come to collect.
She's acting like she's a teenager, who broke up with her boyfriend and now has a new one.
How anyone could treat someone this way i can't fathom.
She has made to attempt to R, or given me any hope.
I'm moving on and doing my best. I'm only human.
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BH: 36 WW:33 M: 2 Relationship: 6 years. Dday: Aug 2018 0 1st mention of D: 30/09, 2nd Mention 17/02/2019 LRT: Oct 2018 WW & AP: EA & PA since June 2018 (Moved country and in with AP Feb 2019)
Manta, get off of social media. It can only harm you at this point.
"They're both cheaters, liars and one day i pray karma will come to collect."
This is very unhealthy Manta. The "I want revenge" angle is always the easiest to take. However, that proves that everything she has said about why (history rewriting, making everything your fault, etc) is correct, at least in her mind. Go read Hurt213' latest update. You will garner much more respect from her by taking the high road.
If you really love her then you want her to be happy no matter what. With or without you. Granted, there is little chance for her having long-term happiness on the path she has chosen, but wishing ill for her only keeps you a prisoner. Letting her go, forgiving her, and moving on frees you from that.
Manta, what are you doing in GAL? How are your 180s coming? You obviously still have detachment issues so work on that.
Come on man, you got this! You are stronger than this! ONWARD AND UPWARD!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Please start a new thread and link the two threads together. Many thanks!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I don't wish revenge, and in fairness i havent humiliated her since finding out back in August.. i did everything my DB coach advised and also listened to you guys.
I tried DB after dday, was validating her and did my best, but she's gone.
Yes i exposed the A to family and friends, but it didn't end it. Also used TLR technique.
it was a tough weekend seeing that in my face. Reality really hit home. I'm not in contact with her for over 2 months now. I'm trying to forgive her internally, but she's treated me like dirt. No remorse shown. I'm Christian and i knowI'll have to forgive her 1 day.
I'm off social media etc since Saturday. I don't want to be triggered anymore.
I have been GAL with getting back into my music again, joined a local music group that play's in the local bar on Friday night's. Good fun and it's helped my confidence. I'm spending more time with my friends and making plans for weekend's. I have a lot of little things planned for Christmas.
Next year I'm going for a holiday in March with my buddies.
Look, i love her. But im doing my best to move on without her keep my dignity.
BH: 36 WW:33 M: 2 Relationship: 6 years. Dday: Aug 2018 0 1st mention of D: 30/09, 2nd Mention 17/02/2019 LRT: Oct 2018 WW & AP: EA & PA since June 2018 (Moved country and in with AP Feb 2019)
