Here is my story. I came home home from work one day and my W was gone, we only have spoken once in more than two months, I did not know what to do and accidentally I went dark, I texted her once saying that I respected her wishes to not call her, she left a note when she left saying that she was not coming back and to not look for her.
Today I texted W to ask her for her address so I can send a Christmas present to our S, but no reply. I do not know if there is an OM.
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Get out and Get a Life (GAL). DETACH.
Believe none of what he or she says and half of what he/she does.
Have NO EXPECTATIONS.
Take care of yourself, breathe, eat, sleep, exercise.
Take the parts of this advice that you need and don't worry if I have repeated something that you have already done.
Here are a few links to threads that will help you immensely:
Sorry to hear about your sitch. Your W took your S and then went NC? How old is your son? That is just not right and so unfair to your S. Have you contacted a lawyer? It is one thing to leave your H and to want to limit contact but she has responsibilities to your S. He has a right to see his father. Is your W financially independent or does she depend on you? If the latter, maybe you should cut her off until she gives you access to your S. Wow. So selfish.
Thank you, I have read one of the books, by accident I did most of the things said, I was in shock so I did not know what to say, that is why I went dark.
The only time we spoke, she only said she wanted me to file for D because she did not have money or time to do it herself, honestly I am not going to file anything if that can buy me more time.
Hi Krull - I’m sorry you are here. I too want to know how old your S is. I am sure she cannot take him away without nothing other than a note. Also, have you seen a lawyer - if not, you really need to.
I still think you must have some rights regarding your S. Have you talked to a lawyer to make sure? You have been supporting him and raising him as your own. That has to count for something.
On the other hand, with all the anxiety I have I started running, I take meditation classes, I just joined a local anxiety group, basically I am staying busy and working on my GAL, still I find myself crying all the time I am alone or at the supermarket or any place that we would go together.
I had relatives passed away and I did not hurt as much as I am hurting now.
Well, I did petitioned him to come to the U.S so maybe there is something I can do, but for now my head is not in a good shape to take action, the whole thing is to fresh, she left only a couple of months ago.
My biggest concern right now is for the child. You are the only dad he knows, and for him to be yanked out of your life is so very detrimental to him. You need to determine your legal rights. Why haven't you pursued seeing him?
