My story

[ovrrnbw]

Manta,

are you guys married, divorced, or what is the stiuation?

[Manta]

Married but she want D

[Jim1234]

Just a thought.... you might want to set up a signature block at the bottom of your posts, so people get the essentials at a glance.

[ovrrnbw]

"She wants the D"....lol!!! I'm sorry my mind is in the gutter! And I just watching The Office where Steve Carrol mentions the phrase "that's what she said" once or twice!

So wanting a divorced means you're married. How are you "not together"? I told my annoying ass, wannabe righteous, got an explanation for everything WW that if you can get out of a marriage by just saying "I want a divorce" then you should have never gotten married in the first place.

My WW, along with many others here, have said these BS words "I should have never gotten married to you". Damn straight you cheater! It took me 2 or 3 months of reflection to reach this conclusion, and all the pain the words she uttered brought me initially eventually made me stronger. And when I got stronger, her cracks showed because I was no longer going to take all the blame.

[Manta]

I didn't reply to her. I think tomorrow i will send her my attorneys letter in regards a seperation. I don't want to go through a D in het country. I don't want her setting the agenda.

[Manta]

No real update. I sent her my attorney's letter a few weeks ago. She tried calling me twice that day, didnt bother answering. It felt good taking some power back and set the agenda. My attorney said he hasnt heard back from her yet. As far as i know the A is still going on. I'm still in NC. It's over a month since i messaged her in response to the "i want a D" message. A is going on since June 2018.

Im feeling stronger and my friends are very supportive. Not having as many sad days anymore. Keeping busy and i don't snoop on her. Blocked her from my whatsappp as i was tired of getting crappy messages which were hurtful and effecting my healing.

Im really seeing clarity now and reflecting on all the bad/mad behaviour patterns. She was very controlling and abusive looking back. I do think she has a personality disorder of some kind based on a lot of her behaviours.

I must relieve my pain by understanding that what has happened to me is not because of anything i did or didnt do, but i can still learn from my mistakes that happened when i let myself down...true love and empathy for her, while also respecting myself, is the path to healing. I have taken the higher road and have kept my integrity.

There is no shame in what we all are going through. Its not our fault how someone else treats us, but it is our fault how we choose to treat ourselves.

I know ill make it. Even R isn't bothering me anymore or fear of separating. I signed up for some online dating and who knows what might happen. Time for Manta now.

[neffer]

Good to read what you wrote. You are moving forward M. Keep DB and GAL!

[Manta]

Thanks Neffer! Keeping it real mate.

[Manta]

Thanks Neffer! Keeping it real mate.

[Manta]

No real update. Been GAL and hanging around with my friends more and more. Nothing from WW. A is still going on. She hasn't filed for D, since her message over a month ago. She still hasn't responded to my attorneys letter in regards a seperation. Thats almost 3 weeks now.

Feeling anger more than sadness, feeling a disgust of her and her actions pre and post A.

Not even thinking anymore of R to be honest.

I think she's laying low as the reality of her actions is beginning to take its toll.



BH: 35 WW:32
M: 2
BD: August 2018

WW & AP: EA & PA since June 2018