I have my girls 50% of the time so when it is my week I really don't have time for anything. Between getting them out the door in the mornings to shuttling them back and forth to soccer practices at night there is not much time for anything else. It is the weeks where I don't have them where I have most of my free time however it is nice just to come home to a quiet house and chill a couple of nights during the week. So between doing that, attending a practice during the week so I can see them, meeting up with friends, and potentially having a date lined up there is really not much time for anything else. I get up at 5 am every morning to go to the gym so I am in bed by 9 pm most nights so there is really not much time left in the day.
J9, taking a brief break from OLD is probably a good idea, even if it's only a week.
I may be following soon behind you. I'm starting to feel like Morgan Freeman in the Shawshank Redemption: "So you go ahead and stamp your form, sonny, and stop wasting my time."
Me-47,XW-43 S13,S16 M:18 BD:4-23-17 W filed:7-17-17 (5 months of in-house separation hell) W moved out:1-6-18 D granted:2-15-18 Decree signed:3-29-18
J9, taking a brief break from OLD is probably a good idea, even if it's only a week. q
I'm curious Holding, just what good would a one week break do? Some OLDers only check in a few times a week. What would such a brief pause provide?
DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
J9, taking a brief break from OLD is probably a good idea, even if it's only a week. q
I'm curious Holding, just what good would a one week break do? Some OLDers only check in a few times a week. What would such a brief pause provide?
OLD is a cycle. Swipe on people you like to get a match. If you get a match, chat for a few days to a week to make sure they're not a total flake. Then ask to meet on a date. Wash, rinse, repeat - concurrently.
Not looking at the apps AT ALL in a single week is a cycle-breaker. It's a small start.
Me-47,XW-43 S13,S16 M:18 BD:4-23-17 W filed:7-17-17 (5 months of in-house separation hell) W moved out:1-6-18 D granted:2-15-18 Decree signed:3-29-18
I will be reaching out tonight to my last on-line date prospect to set something up for Friday or Saturday. Our texting conversation has been minimal (I think we have only spoke twice in the last 2.5 weeks) but when I reach out she has been quick to respond, and enthusiastic about meeting so we shall see how it goes setting something up. I thought about reaching out to her yesterday but I thought it would be a little better if I waited until it was a little closer to the weekend. With this one I like the fact that we have not gotten into long drawn out conversations, when we have chatted it has been back and forth banter so we should have plenty to talk about when we meet. She lives close to my house as well so that is a plus. I was a little concerned about her not initiating conversation however she initially reached out to me first, showed her interest, and then backed off. I do know she is dating other people so that is probably part of it as well but I am cool with it. I actually feel more relaxed about this one than any other, I really feel no pressure.
Hit the gym this morning, have basketball tomorrow morning, and went out with an old friend last night for a couple of beers and some pizza. This buddy and his wife my X and I were friends with when we were married so he has known us for a long time. It was good to catch up with him and he have a quarterly date set between us. He asked me if my x and I have had sex yet and I obviously told him "no" but he swears up and down it's going to happen. I just laugh at him but it's kinda funny.
On a side note I have been attending church for about 2 years now (I went as a kid and then just got away from it in my adult years) and this past Sunday in our small group I volunteered to give my testimonial. I am not a private person nor an over the top religious person but I really haven't spoke a ton to anyone outside of my closest circles about my divorce. So I told our group leader that I would give mine as I thought I felt strong enough to tell my story. Well I almost made it through without tearing up and as usually when I started talking about my daughters, and how hard this past two years has been I had to start and stop several times because I was on the verge of loosing it. I know I am much better than what I was a year ago this time but it sure would be nice to be able to talk about it and not feel my emotions get the best of me.
Lastly I will be heading out of town to Nashville in two weeks to visit my best friends from 1st grade. I unfortunately will be missing a couple of soccer games but I am really looking forward to getting out of town for a couple of days!
I will be reaching out tonight to my last on-line date prospect to set something up for Friday or Saturday.
Good luck! If it doesn't work out, meet me on the beach in Zihuatanejo. I'll be working on my boat.
Originally Posted by Joseph9
He asked me if my x and I have had sex yet and I obviously told him "no" but he swears up and down it's going to happen. I just laugh at him but it's kinda funny.
A divorced friend said the same thing to me. My response was a combination of disgust, shock, and WTF.
Originally Posted by Joseph9
Well I almost made it through without tearing up and as usually when I started talking about my daughters, and how hard this past two years has been I had to start and stop several times because I was on the verge of loosing it.
The pain my kids had to go through hits me hard as well. It's really the only thing that still gets to me. Good for you for being willing to share that with others. Did it help you any to talk about that?
Me-47,XW-43 S13,S16 M:18 BD:4-23-17 W filed:7-17-17 (5 months of in-house separation hell) W moved out:1-6-18 D granted:2-15-18 Decree signed:3-29-18
I think it does H.....you get a lot out here through journaling so I think the more you can process your feelings in different format's the better. It could be journaling, making Youtube videos, talking in public or whatever. So yeah it did.
Alright date set for Saturday night, 7:30 pm at craft beer and craft pizza restaurant. I offer to come to her town and she said it is boring their and suggested we go to a couple of other neighboring towns that have more nightlife. I have had the least amount of interaction with this lady than any of the others. I have spoke to her twice in 2 weeks for maybe a total of an hour via text but she seems very excited to go out and meet me. So I will say this one does feel a little different so we shall see what happens. No expectations.
