Mine was NOT sex-starved. In fact, my ex said, near the end of our marriage, that he didn't actually think the sex would be as good with someone else! We were together 26 years and the sex was always good AND regular. Sometimes with men I think it's just about having some "strange" as they say. No matter how good it is, they get tired of the same person. In my ex's case, he has depression and I think when he couldn't feel better other ways, he thought trading me in would make him feel better. I would venture that most of the WASs here are suffering from depression and/or midlife crisis, and think (usually mistakenly) that leaving their lives/spouses/families/responsibilities behind will fix that for them.
(Not saying that sex-starved marriages don't occur. But the assumption that men stray because their wives aren't doing enough for them in the bedroom is wrong more often than right.)
(Not saying that sex-starved marriages don't occur. But the assumption that men stray because their wives aren't doing enough for them in the bedroom is wrong more often than right.)
I was actually not just talking about men straying but women also for the same reason. Women like sex just as much as men do, so its honestly tough to say what regular is with sex. Women may not admit this but they like strange just as much as men do. I would venture to say women cheat now a days more than men do. Only thing is they get away with it more often, because as long as their husbands are getting some love they dont think anything is wrong. Being single and around the dating scene. It is much easier for women to find sex than it is for men. Most women can go out and find what they need, its more of a conflict within themselves about what they are actually wanting than finding a willing partner. And its opposite for most men, its finding a willing partner for the most part. Now there are outliers of men who look so good that they will get hit on by most any woman, but that is not most men.
My ex and I would have sex atleast once a week, and I thought that was regular, but some people consider that starved, and even though it was regular, i would have preferred 3 or 4 times a week.
In my ex's case she was 32 and felt like she had accomplished nothing in her life. Maybe the fear of mortality or just wanting to srtike out on her own is what she was wanting. I cant say because i am not going to even try to mind read her thoughts. Honestly i am indifferent about her now anyways. She had her chance so maybe she will find what she is seeking.
M:43 W:33 M:10 T:11 D:6 BD 8/12/17 Divorce Final 1/23/2019
Since I have been old for a few months now I get a red flag if a woman wants to meet up right away. The girl that hit me up yesterday after getting mad at me a month ago wanted to meet this weekend. We exchanged numbers and I told her I already had plans and she said during the week was tough because of her kids. She said next weekend family might in town so she would let me know. Now maybe she really just wants to meet me and feels pressure because of her kid situation but I am already starting to question.
I guess it just seems odd that she would immediately have time available to meet. Like she didn't have anything else going on and could make it happen. Maybe it's just me..............
Just go with it. If there are any real red flags you'll find out during the date. I was just speaking with some women in my office who have done OLD and they say they've pushed for a meet very quickly. Just go and see what happens.
Well I can't meet with her this weekend, and she can't meet during the week due to her kids (sounds like she has them full time) not sure where the dad is and next weekend she might have family in town. So it might be a while before we can get together. I am also going out of town to visit my buddies the weekend of 10/26 so who knows when it will happen.
Thanks Nef....yeah, loosing my dog was rough. It brought back a lot of memories as well since that was the first pet my XW and I got together after getting married. She cried as well so I know it touched her also.
I did ask for it . Now that I am more experienced with OLD it is really fascinating. Some of the woman have it down to an exact science. The blonde that I will meet up with next week is still active on the app, building her "stable" so it makes me wonder how many guys have her cell phone number and she is actively interacting with not on the app. It doesn't bother me since I understand the game now but it has been really eye opening.
Girls keep their stable on the app, then if they are lucky the pass onto actually getting her phone number and the direct texting begins. Then depending on how the date goes or how needy the guy is they fall off or she dumps them and then just replaces him with someone from the "stable".
. Now that I am more experienced with OLD it is really fascinating. Some of the woman have it down to an exact science. The blonde that I will meet up with next week is still active on the app, building her "stable" so it makes me wonder how many guys have her cell phone number and she is actively interacting with not on the app. It doesn't bother me since I understand the game now but it has been really eye opening.