Oh, I haven't even friended CMM on FB yet and we've been dating for 3 months!
I have lots of ex-boyfriends on FB, totally appropriate but I think it might make CMM jealous to see them posting things to me (nothing EVER inappropriate, mostly humorous or political stuff, or something musical they think I might be interested in. ) Also if he looks at their pictures they are mostly tall and handsome (not that CMM isn't handsome but some of the ex's are intimidatingly handsome). And what if he asks me about the adorable young guy in his 30's in St. Louis - how do I explain that we are online dating friends from years ago who never met in person but formed a friendship???
Gee - I've never really had to face this issue before to tell the truth. Crazy ExBF was on FB but he didn't spend much time on it (because of course his other women might catch on ). Luckily for me CMM doesn't really do FB so I'm hoping it just doesn't come up for a long time.
Hmmmm.....what do other people do about FB friending dates?
I have never even had a relationship status on FB, and I think I posted one picture in a lifetime with a boyfriend and he made me take it down. And that pretty much put the nail in the coffin of our R.
This is really a strange territory for me. I mean, I've got nothing to hide on there. Pics of me and my D mostly, funny memes and recipes. It's like I don't know what to do with a guy who shows interest and doesn't distance himself from me.
I haven't had much experience with this. I'm a big facebooker because I have friends and family scattered all over the place. When XH and I were married, we both had FB and used it and tagged each other and posted pics and such, but since my D, I haven't posted pics with people I have dated, nor have I friended guys I have dated. Sparky doesn't have facebook so it isn't an issue with him, though there have been a couple of pics of him on mine, but never just the 2 of us. One is a pic of me and him and my 2 friends we went to see Def Leppard with back in the summer. The other is a family gathering at the lake where we were all in the water playing with water toys and you can see him in the group in a few of them. I think it is likely a personal decision for everyone. I will likely continue to keep pics of Sparky off my facebook for awhile, but who knows what the future holds. If he were a fb user, I would certainly friend him, but we are past the initial dating phase. I don't necessarily hide anything on my fb....lots of family pics and memes and inspirational things that speak to me. Today I posted a pic of my niece and my dad because it is their birthdays. I try to be a what you see is what you get kind of person, so that is how I post, but I certainly wouldn't add people in the initial dating phases. I keep my settings to friends only and I only friend people who I actually know.
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Oh, I DEFINITELY don't do the relationship status thing. What a nightmare that would be, deciding when to post you're in a relationship, did you do it too soon, too late, when do you change it, etc? Oh heck no.
Btw Ginger - it IS actually a good sign that he wants to friend you. Guys who are juggling multiple women know to avoid FB because the women catch onto each other and cause trouble. (Crazy ExBF had another FB account for that reason I found out.)
Btw Ginger - it IS actually a good sign that he wants to friend you. Guys who are juggling multiple women know to avoid FB because the women catch onto each other and cause trouble.
LOL - I expect that the first time that I'm tagged in a photo as part of a couple that "lots" of sh## will hit the fan both with my ex-wife and the other of the two women that I'm interested in who I am connected to on FB. Assuming that it's the other one of course.
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Congratulations on the loan! I am so happy for you and your daughter! Things are finally starting to look up for you!
As for the new guy wanting to be friends on FB...that's a step forward. I like the fact that he asked you first. This man has manners and knows how to communicate w/women the proper way.
I am so very happy for you!
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Unless you have a small number of friends and only keep it to close friends (small being 50 or 75) I don't see any problem with it. Most people these days have hundreds of friends on FB so what's the diff? Now changing your R status for me is HUGE and gas never been done by me. I'm even very careful,about posting pictures or doing posts. But friends, no big deal at all to me. Thing is, since mist of my dates in the last years have NOT come from OLD, I often was Facebook friends before we ever dated. That's how it was with wild girl - we were friends on FB a year prior to our first date. Now some dozens of dates or get togethers in we've still each only posted one or two pictures together. I've got multiple FB friends who I dated before who are still FB friends today. Funny thing, I did notice be unfriended me recently. Who knows why.
Bottom one, I'd not sweat it, just clip accept. The real issue may be when friends if yours start to friend him, or him them. Lol.
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