Thanks Steve. I appreciate your honesty. I will work on myself and read sandis rules again.
BH: 36 WW:33 M: 2 Relationship: 6 years. Dday: Aug 2018 0 1st mention of D: 30/09, 2nd Mention 17/02/2019 LRT: Oct 2018 WW & AP: EA & PA since June 2018 (Moved country and in with AP Feb 2019)
Keeping quiet last few days. Had a phone session, which was helpful and also counselling. Currently in detachment phase. Our two year wedding anniversary is coming up in a few weeks time. I know it will be hard. Keeping GAL and focused.
BH: 36 WW:33 M: 2 Relationship: 6 years. Dday: Aug 2018 0 1st mention of D: 30/09, 2nd Mention 17/02/2019 LRT: Oct 2018 WW & AP: EA & PA since June 2018 (Moved country and in with AP Feb 2019)
So my wife messaged this morning, week of nc. Wondering if i wanted to meet her Saturday to talk, she said she hopes im ok...
BH: 36 WW:33 M: 2 Relationship: 6 years. Dday: Aug 2018 0 1st mention of D: 30/09, 2nd Mention 17/02/2019 LRT: Oct 2018 WW & AP: EA & PA since June 2018 (Moved country and in with AP Feb 2019)
Well i agreed to meet her. She sent an angry text then about the AP ex, saying why i i told her certain thing's and also her family, things that were not true. Shes full of it.
I haven't replied.
BH: 36 WW:33 M: 2 Relationship: 6 years. Dday: Aug 2018 0 1st mention of D: 30/09, 2nd Mention 17/02/2019 LRT: Oct 2018 WW & AP: EA & PA since June 2018 (Moved country and in with AP Feb 2019)
I want to know where i stand though. Haven't seen her in almost 3 weeks.
I'm preparing for 3 scenarios
1. She wants out 2. She wants in 3. She doesn't know what she wants
For 2 & 3 i need to make it clear that in order to reconcile that she needs to stop the affair. I haven't made that clear yet.
If its one, then i will file for seperation and continue nc and gal.
BH: 36 WW:33 M: 2 Relationship: 6 years. Dday: Aug 2018 0 1st mention of D: 30/09, 2nd Mention 17/02/2019 LRT: Oct 2018 WW & AP: EA & PA since June 2018 (Moved country and in with AP Feb 2019)
Manta, when she is ready for 1-3 she will let you know. She won't wait. Trust me, she was going to confront you. When you didn't respond she unloaded on text.
I wouldn't push it. Just hold steady.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Will do. She asked me did i want to meet her Saturday.
I know shes meeting AP today as there is another work convention in England for a few days. He will be flying there too. She left her our country to go to England today.
She should be back in her own country on Saturday, originally though i thought she would be there until sunday?
Last edited by Manta; 09/12/1802:15 PM.
BH: 36 WW:33 M: 2 Relationship: 6 years. Dday: Aug 2018 0 1st mention of D: 30/09, 2nd Mention 17/02/2019 LRT: Oct 2018 WW & AP: EA & PA since June 2018 (Moved country and in with AP Feb 2019)
If she does say ILYBINILWY and i want a separation, what should i do or say?
BH: 36 WW:33 M: 2 Relationship: 6 years. Dday: Aug 2018 0 1st mention of D: 30/09, 2nd Mention 17/02/2019 LRT: Oct 2018 WW & AP: EA & PA since June 2018 (Moved country and in with AP Feb 2019)
