I´ve read your last post on Lane´s thread. Imho you are describing a typical MLC wife there. I remember those feelings. Not your monkeys man...not your road anymore...f@ck the spark...
I know man...keep shining
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WW H(me): 53 W: 48 T: 27 M: 22 S: 18 Piecing since 03/2016 Saw the light in the storm
So I met another lady online and it appears so far we have hit if off as much as you can without actually meeting. She is 41, an IT Manager and has 2 boys 14 and 12. She has been divorced for 7years. She is fit, goes to church, and is into her kids. Her parents got divorced when she was 4 however she has a good relationship with her father which is a question I asked. She has made it clear that she is interested in a relationship and you can tell she is ready for a man. Not sure how I feel about it all and obviously we have not met yet in person so I don’t know about the attraction piece however we do share other similar values and beliefs...more than I can type. I just need to remind myself to take it slow.
Just kidding. I saw what you wrote on my thread. I do see why she is worried. I get it. It's been a long time and she knows what she wants and she's probably dated guys who were just trying dating on for size and found out they weren't ready. As you know, I have been though it on more than one occasion, and it fuking hurts.
I do suggest that you really think if you are ready for something long term. I believe in being truly honest with yourself. I believe you will. I know you are considerate of others. Slow is good, as long as you share the same end goals.
Um.....yes For me slow is key....I am not a fan of dating just to date but I don't want to get married tomorrow either if that makes sense. If we hit it off I won't feel the need to hang out with other girls however I still think we can go slow and not immediately spend a bunch of time with each other. We live 20 min from each other and with kids that won't be possible anyway.
Um.....yes For me slow is key....I am not a fan of dating just to date but I don't want to get married tomorrow either if that makes sense. If we hit it off I won't feel the need to hang out with other girls however I still think we can go slow and not immediately spend a bunch of time with each other. We live 20 min from each other and with kids that won't be possible anyway.
LOL! I know, I know, band dude lived 20 minutes away and we both had kids and we made too much time for eachother. Learn from me.
Slow is good. Being in this lady's position, There is nothing wrong with slow as long as there is an intended destination.
Sorry g I wasn't inferring to what just happened to you but yes I agree. I don't think you go on multiple dates without the intention of something not happening
Hi all......well date set for tomorrow night with Fed Ex girl. We have been chatting for a week pretty much non-stop and seem to have great chemistry. Tomorrow will be the moment of truth if that chemistry will translate into physical chemistry. I can see how people can get attached just by texting each other and since women are emotional creatures I can totally see how this would be the case for them especially in an OLD environment.
My daughters went back to school today and it was the first time that I was not there to see them off. I was actually ok with it so I guess it goes to show how far I have come in over a year.
I did have another lady reach out to me that for whatever reason we have not been able to connect. When I first signed up for OLD we matched on BUMBLE but she never initiated a conversation so it expired. When I signed up for Match she liked me so a couple of weeks later I sent her an email and she never responded to me. This was about two months ago so fast forward to yesterday and she sends me an email. I have not read it or responded to it yet but part of me is like you snooze you lose but I give her credit because after ignoring me twice she has the confidence to send me an email. I want to read it and respond but it will be pointless if Fed Ex and I hit it off tomorrow. I thought about waiting until after the date so I could get a better read on the situation.
Sorry to use my self as an example again, but you could hit it off great on the first date, but that doesn't mean relationship and commitment. keep your options open.
And have a great time. I think sometimes expectations might get too high when the texting is all great and the nervousness of the first meeting comes in. Try not to build something up in your head, and go with the flow.
That's where I am at with now G.........I am hopeful but I realize the meeting in person is the big test and to your point a R might not come of it. I get the sense though that she is ready for one after being D'd for 7 years. We shall see.
For me slow is key....I am not a fan of dating just to date but I don't want to get married tomorrow either if that makes sense. If we hit it off I won't feel the need to hang out with other girls however I still think we can go slow and not immediately spend a bunch of time with each other. We live 20 min from each other and with kids that won't be possible anyway.