Ok....well I ended it with the one girl. I feel much better after doing so, I think in my mind I wanted it to work but knew I wasn't feeling it, the attraction. I do have another girl lined up....trying to get something set up for Saturday night which is dependent on finding someone to watch them.
Last edited by job; 07/25/1808:21 PM. Reason: added link to previous thread
Well, I'm behind, but thanks for answering my question earlier anyway. I do wish you the best in your endeavors. Hope you are able to work out Saturday night.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
Thanks Dawn....and no the EW VS XW didn't bother me . I guess I never paid attention before I just went by the first letter of both words and didn't pay attention to how it was normally used on the board. I'll make the correction moving forward....glad you got a chuckle
On a side note the girl I ended things with responded back to me saying No hard feelings, she enjoyed spending time with me, told me I seemed like a good guy and told me to have a great rest of my summer.
I wonder on some level if she is relieved. I just don't think she was emotionally ready. Just my opinion.
You get huge points for being upfront and honest with her. Many people appreciate knowing. I've got to deduct a point or two for doing it over text. I get that's so common these days and you only had two dates so that's why I'm only taking away one or two points. Lol
I still think you are putting way too much effort and brain energy into all of this. I know it's so hard not to and I've done it before as well. Can just tell you that at least for me, when you feel a connection, it's far less work. At least that's been the case for me. I just feel so much more myself again. Yeah I'm putting in effort but it's so natural feeling. Even how it started off for me, like some outside force just guided me to do what now feels natural. I too had tried to force myself to feel something when meeting new people. I was just thinking about that earlier for some reason. I remember going on dates and feeling like well maybe I might sort of have an attraction. Yet even when getting ready for the date I was almost dreading it - like just doing it because I wanted to force myself to give her a chance. I think that's where you were. Just don't try so hard. Just be. You can still put effort into dating, just don't let so much hang on the outcome let what will be, just be.
DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
. I guess I never paid attention before I just went by the first letter of both words and didn't pay attention to how it was normally used on the board. I'll make the correction moving forward....glad you got a chuckle 