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So i just got an email from Daycare.

WIFE payed her past due balances with the Daycare today, but didnt pay this weeks bill.

The daycare director sent another email after saying

"WIFE, thank you for your recent payent of the past due balances. Your bill for this week of 7/9-7/13 is still due.
OrangeK, you are all up to date. I have you on deck to pay next week - 7/16-7/20.

Thanks both of you, if you have any questions you can reach me at "Phone Number for Daycare".

Thanks,

Mrs. Daycare Director."

This email included an updated invoice.

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She is getting more disorganized.

She still hasnt filled out or submitted her Child Support packet that she HAS to complete FIRST, before I even get mailed my enrollment package for ChildSupport.
She has had this since the first week of June.
I literally cannot pay her any child support until she completes this.
Clearly she needs my money.......


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Testing my device,

Sandi I don't have an I pad to try so I will need someone else to help us here.

I have notified the Administrator of this issue too.

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Any progress Sandi?


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Works on my phone, but nothing on my Ipad.


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Originally Posted by sandi2
Works on my phone, but nothing on my Ipad.



Maybe try a different browser on the iPad?

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Originally Posted by OrangeK
So i just got an email from Daycare.

WIFE payed her past due balances with the Daycare today, but didnt pay this weeks bill.

The daycare director sent another email after saying

"WIFE, thank you for your recent payent of the past due balances. Your bill for this week of 7/9-7/13 is still due.
OrangeK, you are all up to date. I have you on deck to pay next week - 7/16-7/20.

Thanks both of you, if you have any questions you can reach me at "Phone Number for Daycare".

Thanks,

Mrs. Daycare Director."

This email included an updated invoice.

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She is getting more disorganized.

She still hasnt filled out or submitted her Child Support packet that she HAS to complete FIRST, before I even get mailed my enrollment package for ChildSupport.
She has had this since the first week of June.
I literally cannot pay her any child support until she completes this.
Clearly she needs my money.......


Bumping for opinions


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There is pretty much nothing you can do as you were both CC'd on the email. She knows. Now she has to decide what to do.

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Ginger,

More on the 2nd part.
She is getting more and more disorganized. Missing payments, neglecting Dr. appointments, not putting socks on S3, and making every Sunday pickup / dropoff of S3 a huge hassle.

IDK why she insists on making everything difficult, then blaming me.

She has messaged me 3 days in a row now, once to ask about my living arrangements, and twice to "prove" she sleeps at her mothers. I havent texted her back since Monday.


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OK - My W is not organized either and we even have a joint calendar with all the kids activities on it. She will even call me to pseudo get permission to miss certain things. It is what it is, I believe it is due to her focus not being on S3 right now and her attention is other places (probably placed on the OM and her new life). My EW does the same thing.

She makes things difficult I believe as a way to remove some of the guilt from her conscience by making you out to be the bad guy. That is why it is important to hold the line.

My EW used to text like that early on.....eventually she stopped when I didn't respond. She will get the message over time.


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Nothing you can do about her disorganization either.

You can just document, get what needs to get done for S3 and that is about it.

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