You tell her its your house and your rules and she doesnt tell you who to talk too and what to say.
You stay at your house and never offer to go stay somewhere else make her sleep on the couch.
It's your house now. She decided to leave. Stop letting her dictate the terms, she needs you not the other way around, shes in no place to tell you what to do.
Be a man and take your balls back. You were so happy she got kicked out and called you, You were ready with your cape to save the day.
M:37 W:37 T:11 M:10 S17, S13, S10, S4 BD:06/28/17 OM confirmed 07/20/17 Recon the M 10/29/17 Working hard:2gether
Onward and forward
This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.
Your right Joe, I'm thinking tomorrow I'll watch the kids and tell her she needs to get to finding her somewhere to go. I hope she don't end up back with om, she wants to be with him. I think his ex got to him using kids as leverage or something. It don't matter if she don't love me or want to be in family then she has to go on.
You shouldn't and dont care about what happened with OM and their relationship. Thats is none of your worry. Dont give him power or energy in your life about worrying why he kicked her to the curb.
She didnt show you any remorse or appreciation for helping her out. She acts like your owe her something. You are/were her rock and foundation, not her plan B. Start treating yourself like a plan A and accept no less treatment.
M:37 W:37 T:11 M:10 S17, S13, S10, S4 BD:06/28/17 OM confirmed 07/20/17 Recon the M 10/29/17 Working hard:2gether
Onward and forward
This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.
She decided to stay with a friend. I'm glad she did, but kinda hurt. I should have known she would do that. She just went so wild, dragging them two babies behind her all over the place. Made her think I had lots of plans tomorrow. She asked "what you doing tomorrow" I said I have ever a life to live too ya know" I can't get the kids every second I have off from work. She replied " got you a date". I said " don't worry about it". I would say she was jealous but she don't care. She only sees me as baby's father. It hurts me so bad cause I love her so much.
I truly beleive FB has turned into a narsasis. She loathes herself and how many friends she can have and hang out with. It's ridiculous. I think it is such a problem in our lives today. People need to put down the phones and quit with the trying to impress the world. She'll never grow up, always putting her so called friends in front of anyone that truly cares for her, then when they go away she'll just get some new ones. I really don't need her in my life. Just being a single father is so hard with my schedule. Maybe things will change oneday. I hate to put my kids aside tomorrow but I feel like it's best.
FB is evil no question. However, marital problems and WWs predate Facebook. While I wish all social media would go the way of the Dodo, it wouldn't solve the issue of WASs.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
New development today, I got up early and was cleaning my house and ex called crying. Asking me what I had done. Turns out om has told her to get her [censored] and get out his house. I was so happy. Not because I wanted her to jump in my arms. But because I new she was safe and my kids.
Now she didn't have anywhere to stay, so my kids are homeless. She wanted to borrow money for a hotel but I didn't want to give it to her. So I told her I was broke.
Nice Guy Syndrome. Tell her the truth.
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I offered her to stay at my house and I go to dads. She said I ain't coming back to that house. Which hurt, but ok.
Hell to the no! You don't move out to accommodate her.
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Later on I guess she figured out she had no where else to go so she is staying at my place tonight. Which is fine I'll be at work anyway. Kids will destroy my clean house, and that's ok too.
She told me not to bother her when I get home, and not to tell anyone she stayed there last night. Which really upset me.
I got nice guy syndrome and am a doormat.
Advice please
You softened in 2 seconds. She knows she's got you. And don't take this the wrong way b/c I am not there yet either.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
you had an excellent opportunity to show yourself STRONG here, but you squandered it... i am sure another opportunity will come knocking at some point... be ready... be prepared... IN OMNIA PARATUS!
