Cadet, if you see this post...I saw you mention on another thread that you can get old posts back. How far back can you go? I posted here 14.5 years ago after my indiscretion and I would love to get those threads back.
They are likely purged, however what was your username?
Hi Helena, your sitch is very different than the standard WAS BDs, I think its the standstill that is slowly eating you away. Like the others I do think physical separation will bring perspective to both you and H. You might realize the MR needs saved by and both be ready to put the work in or one of you may decide the separation should be permanent. But you will be putting things in action that you may not be able to undo. Are you ready to do this or would you rather wait as is and let time be the decider ?
I'm afraid I may never get there Arshi. At some point I feel like I'm going to have to force myself. I feel like I've taken some steps in that direction already, done some things I can't go back from, letting this situation be fully what it is. I feel like eventually my life will stare back at me in such a way that I'll know I have to go. I hope so anyway, I just want some peace.
M: 43, H: 44 Married 18 yrs, Together 26 yrs S17, D15, D8, S6 Still living in MH
This is truly amazing Cadet. I had asked Virginia for these back in early 2015 and she told me they were no longer available. I feel like the universe wanted me to have these back today as it was a total coincidence that I saw your post on Matt's thread about getting old posts back.
I'm about to on a trip down memory lane and I have a feeling I'm not going to like it. I miss the people that helped me so much the first time around!
M: 43, H: 44 Married 18 yrs, Together 26 yrs S17, D15, D8, S6 Still living in MH
This is truly amazing Cadet. I had asked Virginia for these back in early 2015 and she told me they were no longer available. I feel like the universe wanted me to have these back today as it was a total coincidence that I saw your post on Matt's thread about getting old posts back.
I'm about to on a trip down memory lane and I have a feeling I'm not going to like it. I miss the people that helped me so much the first time around!
Just for the record the post on Matts thread was totally different than this.
His posts are stored away in a safe place because someone was stalking him.
Yours have been here the whole time just no one looked for them.
Sorry Virginia gave you that answer but sorry to say her tech abilities are well I better not say!
Re-reading these threads has been incredible. Incredible that so many things are the same, incredible how so many things are different, incredible that I'd forgotten some of the excellent advice I'd been given, incredible at how much I miss some of those folks and wonder how things turned out for them.
Still sooooo many posts to read but I am in awe. I actually sounded stronger then in so many ways. I've cried a lot, laughed a few times. Feels surreal to re-read memories and plays of events that I had forgotten and thought were gone forever. Things I can't even believe I would ever forget.
M: 43, H: 44 Married 18 yrs, Together 26 yrs S17, D15, D8, S6 Still living in MH
