Another Update: Wife calls just a while ago and again i guess mood swing. Says she was disgusted by the letter I wrote. And felt like she just does not want to see me ever again. Had too much anger. Said she is available for my mutual friends to meet her. However, she does not expect to change her decision to divorce. I don't know how, but her mind sensed I may be planning to withdraw and she threatened to drag me to court and pull all my records for divorce. I simply listened the entire time to her conversation and didn't say a word. And she said goodbye and kept the phone. wierd!
M(35) F(35) T(6) M(6) BD 10/25/2017 S 3/12/2018 LRT 4/3 D Served 4/30 D Signed (Me) 5/1 D filed with Court 5/21 D Final 7/6 Moving on with life and doing lot of GAL since 7/6 :-)
M(35) F(35) T(6) M(6) BD 10/25/2017 S 3/12/2018 LRT 4/3 D Served 4/30 D Signed (Me) 5/1 D filed with Court 5/21 D Final 7/6 Moving on with life and doing lot of GAL since 7/6 :-)
M(35) F(35) T(6) M(6) BD 10/25/2017 S 3/12/2018 LRT 4/3 D Served 4/30 D Signed (Me) 5/1 D filed with Court 5/21 D Final 7/6 Moving on with life and doing lot of GAL since 7/6 :-)
Well. Today i am planning to give her a surprise visit. I will let her know my decision to withdraw the dissolution consent. I will not have much discussions with her and simply say that I need time although she has no interest to reconcile. Lets see how it goes.
M(35) F(35) T(6) M(6) BD 10/25/2017 S 3/12/2018 LRT 4/3 D Served 4/30 D Signed (Me) 5/1 D filed with Court 5/21 D Final 7/6 Moving on with life and doing lot of GAL since 7/6 :-)
Please don't let her know that you are redrawing. It will come off like pursuit and apply pressure. Just redraw if thats what you want to do. She will find out on her own.
You are trying to get a reaction with your action, it wont work.
M:37 W:37 T:11 M:10 S17, S13, S10, S4 BD:06/28/17 OM confirmed 07/20/17 Recon the M 10/29/17 Working hard:2gether
Onward and forward
This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.
No. I can only withdraw on the day of the final hearing in front of judge. There is no formal paperwork. The reason is I need to talk to her is because the lawyer suggested me to do so. He said if both can agree we can put it off for 2 more months. If not it will automatically get converted to a divorce process. So the best approach now is to consult her.
M(35) F(35) T(6) M(6) BD 10/25/2017 S 3/12/2018 LRT 4/3 D Served 4/30 D Signed (Me) 5/1 D filed with Court 5/21 D Final 7/6 Moving on with life and doing lot of GAL since 7/6 :-)
She will see your decision as pursuit. The decision to hold off is yours, if she wanted to delay it she would of informed you. D is not the end of this process.
M:37 W:37 T:11 M:10 S17, S13, S10, S4 BD:06/28/17 OM confirmed 07/20/17 Recon the M 10/29/17 Working hard:2gether
Onward and forward
This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.
She definitely does not want to delay. I know that. She told my mutual friends that she was expecting me to pursue her which i didn't and hence she made up her mind. My friends said that I am kinda lucky to have her as she was profusely crying in pain the entire time. She has a lot of respect towards me it seems but unfortunately no trust. She is upset and thinks if I can manage with someone else easily why she should even be bothered about me. She doesn't want to feel secondary in my eyes as she has her own pride. I know she may be trying to manipulate my friends and make herself be in good books with my friends. However, I really want to meet her and observe what she says. I will be confident as ever. I won't give in to her abuse or bullying. If she wants to call cops so be it. I will remain calm and composed. I want to see how she reacts. I know she has a lot of anger.
M(35) F(35) T(6) M(6) BD 10/25/2017 S 3/12/2018 LRT 4/3 D Served 4/30 D Signed (Me) 5/1 D filed with Court 5/21 D Final 7/6 Moving on with life and doing lot of GAL since 7/6 :-)
Good luck Nutcrac. I've said before to others that I do not understand those that come to this forum for advice, and then completely ignore the advice. I can understand slipping up, but this breach of DBing is premeditated.
You asked for sandi's input. sandi wrote 37 rules. One is BELIEVE NOTHING SHE SAYS. Yet you hang on every word as if it is gospel. So good luck, I will continue to read your sitch but I think you are headed for losing her with your actions.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
