IH - I'm with Steve if the opportunity arises then BINGO! XW will she that she missed the bus and try to halt the next on to catch up to you. Stay in control.
M51 w50 T-20Yrs M-16Yrs S15- mad at W for not trying and giving up 1 Awesum dog BD 10/31/17 separate rooms 02/08/18 wife moved out 05/17/18
Yeah I agree with you guys. Time to move on and start dating again. I'm not getting any younger here and want to find my life partner. It's becoming increasingly apparent that it's not WAW after all. But hey, I had to try right? Thanks for all the great advice here and all of you taking the time to reply!
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
It's becoming increasingly apparent that it's not WAW after all.
i don't think it's apparent... it's early in your situation... but it's best that you not put your life on hold... move on... keep on keeping on... you may cross paths withy XW or you may come across the most spectacular person of your dreams... and maybe XW misses the bus... You don't know...
Sounds like a plan to me Artista. No I wouldn't put my life on hold for WAW. I haven't dated moreso because I recently just got out of a long term relationship with Mary so I figured it was best to wait awhile and be single for a bit. It had nothing to do with WAW. She just happened to pop into the picture right after Mary and I split and occupied my only night off work for a few of those weekends. I just don't see any progression on WAW's part and I'm getting bored dealing with her and her flaking out. A friendship with her won't work long term anyway so whatever happens happens.
I'll still keep you guys updated of course if and when I hear from WAW again and if I happened to not be involved with anyone I'll still try and get her to go out and do something with me. Thank you!!
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
Hi Guys, Well WAW texted me to let me know she quit smoking and is on the patch. She sent a photo of herself wearing the patch saying she's proud of herself. This is weird. Not sure why I needed to see a pic of her wearing it but that's what she sent.
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
Just on her arm. Not a sexual pic or anything like that. Just a typical selfie showing the patch on her arm.
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
So IH at this point I think one of a few things is going on:
1) She misses your friendship and so wants to friend zone you. I find this unlikely. This is what social media is for. You can be "friends" on FacEvilBook.
2) She wants to R. While this is more likely than 1, her behavior has me questioning this a bit. Though it could be she is wanting you to pursue, something I am not sure you should do at this point. But some of her behavior has me thinking R is something she is at least open to.
3) She is horny and wants some, and you are the most likely recipient because of your history. Woman in their 40s sometimes aren't open to someone new, they want to rekindle with an old flame. I had an ex-gf pull this with me several years ago. I had to flat out tell her that I was married and it wasn't happening. She even told me at the time she was only open to a sexual relationship with someone she had "history" with. (Oh and she is married too.) To me this is right now the most likely. This would explain the contradictory actions on her part. But it also would explain the calling you into her bed, and sending you the suggestive pic.
You've probably already considered 1 and 2, but maybe not 3. It came to me while watching an old Everyone Love Raymond where Roberts XW started coming around but only wanted no string attached sex with him. I thought of your sitch and a lightbulb went on my feeble brain.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
