S - I agree, I don't want to force anything and that has been my experience as well with meeting people. I am not a "player" by nature so your right I just need to let it flow. I think the frustration part comes from when you finally, emotionally get to a place when you are ready to put yourself out there again and then you start with a few failed attempts. My buddy tells me if you think they are cute like them and you can figure it out later. My approach has been the exact opposite thus far. I analyze them all, what they do, what I assume they are looking for.
For example, last night a ran across this very attractive corporate attorney.....she has a 4 yr old and by all appearances has some pretty high expectations. My buddy, he would make a move but me I make an assumption on who I think she is looking for and what I am looking for and move on to the next.
As far as the EW goes.....I never really thought she was done, just never felt it. IMO she tries to be done or put on a show that she is done but I see cracks. My EW in current form, no interest and if she didn't want to put in the work then I am very comfortable with continuing to pay my child support.
At this juncture I feel like I owe it to myself to explore my options and she can be my Plan B.
True, true L.....I responded to her a couple of hours later but it kept it short, to like two sentences. I said no worries, sounds like a fun trip and asked her what her favorite part was.
I read in the MR man's sex primer....to keep your responses on an equal as them. If they send something that is 2 sentences long then respond in kind but always end with a question to keep the conversation going.
I think it also says that if they take 24 hrs to respond then you should do the same.
Yeah. I dont know if it was a test, but just because she took a weekend off the dating site, doesnt mean everything. Dont fall back into mindreading. If she contacted you again it means she is interested. Period.
That said, I disagree with some of what was written above. For me personally I wont message for more than a week or two without making a suggestion to meet up. If they cant make it the first time but want to keep talking I would give them one more chance, but if they turn down two meetings, I am out. Some people like to have internet romances, but thats not my thing.
Of course, do what feels most comfortable for you.
Good luck!
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
I agree, she is still interested. It is just trying to find the right time to ask to meet. I don't want to push it but at the same time I am not sure the comfort level is there yet because we have so much time in between interactions. It's not fluid conversation and the last couple of interactions have not been of the getting to know you topics. She said she took her boys to the beach and asked about her trip.
HA L - The interesting this is the different categories of ladies. You can tell right off the bat if they are high maintenance, if they are looking for a sugar daddy or going through some mid-life crisis. Some of these ladies make it very clear they want a rich dude to sweep them off their feet or they are D and looking to replace the rich dude that D'd them. It seems the ones in their late 30's or early 40's with a child or two are much more realistic and down to earth. Then of course you run into those who want no kids and want a man who has older kids.
I make good money but I am not a sugar daddy.....they would probably bolt out the back door when they saw me roll up in the Highlander
Man, I should be golden, but I am not! I am in my late 30's, one kid, done having kids, and I don't need no sugar daddy (but I do like a guy who is financially my equal atleast).
I, prefer to meet ASAP. I hate wasting my time with all this texting if we aren't going to meet or have no connection. You want to watch out for those too. A lot of people just want text buddies. I like them in the flesh!
LOL G - I would think you would be golden! I definitely would prefer a partner that is my financial equal as well. Maybe that is why I am so picky but I can tell right away what they are all about and what they are looking for. I know there are guys like that out there which is cool, but that's not me. I don't even attempt to compete. I got child support to pay
I thought really hard about asking this nurse to meet up for coffee but her responses are so delayed that it makes it difficult. I just don't feel they are very connected and when she has responded the last couple of times the responses have been short so I just don't get it.
I am getting a ton of girls checking out my profile and liking me but only a couple where I felt like there was a physical attraction and an attraction from their profile.
Oh and then you have the ones that post pictures of them on vacation from like 3 years ago and then you get one pic of them recently and your like whoa! What happened? So unfortunately 1 wrong picture is a deal breaker as well.
I have a disclaimer at the end of my profile that all my pics are within the last year. Not everyone does that and you can totally tell the ones that are not recent.
