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I have not EVER wanted anyone but her and our family back together.


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Originally Posted By: ballast
help...so I get an email..."we both know you've moved on" meaning me...how do I best reply?


Ignore it. The fact that she thinks that is perfect!!This is what you want. As hoosjim just told another user, you are never more attractive to her than when you are walking away. This proves your DBing is working.


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but good lord I so want to refute that!!! I feel like I'm losing her by letting it go...


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Originally Posted By: ballast
but good lord I so want to refute that!!! I feel like I'm losing her by letting it go...


Did you ever try to grab and hold on to a wet bar of soap?

The harder you squeeze the harder it is to hold.

Letting GO is counter intuitive but it is the only way you might get her back.


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Originally Posted By: ballast
help...so I get an email..."we both know you've moved on" meaning me...how do I best reply?


Is that all she said?


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Agree with ovrrnbw, what else did she say? What was the context? Giving advice without context in this scenario would be dangerous. Themeatically I agree that this is what you want her to believe provided she actually believes that and is not just trying to make you the bad guy to displace her guilt.

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Originally Posted By: ballast
help...so I get an email..."we both know you've moved on" meaning me...how do I best reply?


Your response: Stop bothering me. I told you I'm still married. You'll have to wait.

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She added I am attempting to do the same


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She added I am attempting to do the same


Shame on you! wink

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I think it is to displace her guilt


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