Thank you Steve, appreciate the feedback. Giving this sitch more time, there are days she isnt as friendly but more friendly than not. Even if we R this is going to be a long road.
M:52 W:49 D:26 S:24 S:23 D:20 ILYBNILWY 5/28/17 Still living together W filed 1/5/18 W moved out 8/24/18 D final 9/18/20
Nothing new with the W except that I have not had any talks with her in the last week. Today was the first time she said hello to me and I politely said hello back. She has been trying to get my attention through talking to the kids, weird but I dont respond.
Went for a run this morning, got new headphones and they work great.
Friday night went out with friends from HS, in attendance were 5 of us with the other 4 guys being in the top 15 in our graduating class. One was our HS class pres. these are all top achievers. Two are Lawyers and both are very sucessful. the other two are executives with large companies. One of the Lawyers is working on D number 3 and doesnt care one bit. Says he will not try and be with someone who doesnt want to be with him.
D23 came to me and said Mom was being an idiot, I asked how? she said that anything mom says doesnt make any sense, that just even trivial things are all over the map. I said you need to take that up with mom. D23 said she was telling me bc she thinks something is mentally wrong with W. I said if there is it is something M has to address.
I have had some time off of work and it feels great. Been fixing things around the house and I really feel good with some minor projects being complete.
M:52 W:49 D:26 S:24 S:23 D:20 ILYBNILWY 5/28/17 Still living together W filed 1/5/18 W moved out 8/24/18 D final 9/18/20
To say my sitch is bizzarre would be an understatement, yes everyone thinks their sitch is unique but this is just plain weird. Filed on Jan. 5th... and here we are 5 months later and nothing has been done except financial statement.
There are days she is friendly and days she just doesnt want to talk... the roller coaster... I know when to back off and when I can talk to her. I guess you could say I am standing for my M but am i really? She gives me nothing in terms of R, but also nothing in terms of D other than she filed.
I have not and will not talk about R with her I am way past that, but I am also coming to a point where I need an answer. I do not know how I should proceed as these are unchartered waters for me. I can say at this point I do not worry what will happen anymore, but I need something to happen.
Vets please help with this!!
Do I continue to wait?
Ask her whats going on?
Do I push the D forward? See if that sets a fire under her?
I have asked this before but if a S is so sure they want a D and push it forward and fast track, why the wait?
IC says that W is suffering from many problems and that she does not believe W is in an A. At this point does it even matter... NO
M:52 W:49 D:26 S:24 S:23 D:20 ILYBNILWY 5/28/17 Still living together W filed 1/5/18 W moved out 8/24/18 D final 9/18/20
BH, just stay the course. Go back and read cadet's links and put them into practice.
That the D hasn't progressed is not surprising. Likely your WAW and a rare burst of WAW energy and filed, and now has done nothing else to advance the D.
Whatever you do DO NOT ask her what is going on.
So continue to wait, but also continue to detach, GAL, 180, and be the best bhappy that you can be.
Remember slow and steady wins the race. Patience. Patience. And what that runs out more patience!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
BH, just stay the course. Go back and read cadet's links and put them into practice.
That the D hasn't progressed is not surprising. Likely your WAW and a rare burst of WAW energy and filed, and now has done nothing else to advance the D.
Whatever you do DO NOT ask her what is going on.
So continue to wait, but also continue to detach, GAL, 180, and be the best bhappy that you can be.
Remember slow and steady wins the race. Patience. Patience. And what that runs out more patience!
Than you Steve, appreciate the feedback.
M:52 W:49 D:26 S:24 S:23 D:20 ILYBNILWY 5/28/17 Still living together W filed 1/5/18 W moved out 8/24/18 D final 9/18/20
Ha... I am moving back to the marital home in August and my wife is talking about buying a lawnmower.
Maybe they just really love their lawns?
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
