Don't mindread too much. They might not be interested, or it could be that they were just busy all weekend and didnt have a chance to respond. Either way, you are correct just to leave it to them.
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
Just heard a new term from the young ones - 'caspering'... a play on the word 'ghosting' lol... maybe you got caspered, but it's all good... just leave em and move on
D - Yeah, who knows what they have going on. I think it just stands out as they are the first two that I had interacted with. I don't think it will be that big of deal the more comfortable I get with this new way of meeting people.
M - Yo.....your probably right or they could be testing me to see if I will turn into "that" guy. I am trying to figure out how many to talk to at once. I get matches daily but I don't want to string people along, talking to multiple, then trying to manage my exit strategy if I am going on multiple dates with multiple women. Trying to figure out how to get comfortable with it.
Personally, I never had a problem talking to various girls at once online, so long as it never progressed to something serious. If I went on 2-3 dates with someone and felt like there was a good possibility for more, I would shut down other stuff. I feel like 90% of the conversations dont lead anywhere so I would be wasting time if I only talked to one person at a time.
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
Thanks D.....I have been out of the game for 17 years and online dating didn't exist back then. A girlfriend of mine told me to chat it up with as many as I am comfortable with and the same that the majority of the conversations seemingly die off as well.
I just keep reminding myself to not have any expectations and don't take it personally.
Well I consider the conversations dead from the first two ladies I was speaking with. I haven't heard from 1 since Friday and the other one since Saturday. Not sure what I did wrong or didn't do right but obviously something wasn't working for them. Hard to imagine after just a couple of text messages back and forth but whatever. I am getting a lot of activity on my profile so now I am just trying to decide who to chat with next. It is kind of overwhelming, I am finding myself slightly afraid to make the first move.
Anyway, I guess I am just trying to get comfortable with it.
Well I got a text from the hot blonde nurse yesterday after her being radio silent for like 3 days. Said she went out of town with her boys. Totally cool but it's hard to get any traction on moving this forward when we go 24 hours or more without speaking. I have a good girlfriend of mine who told me it was too early to ask her to meet and that you really need some good consistent messaging back and forth before you make that move. So I am not sure what to do other than be patient however it is slightly frustrating.
On a side note the EW called me last night concerned about a medical issue she was having. I mean that's cool and all but we are D'd so why are you calling me???? SMH. so I listened, validated and she told me to keep my phone on the nightstand in case something happened. I texted her this am to make sure she was ok and then she let me know she had a doctor's appointment this afternoon.
Last day of school for the kids, I will get them tonight after work and have them all next week. A good friend of ours is taking them to the water park this afternoon and we are leaving tomorrow to go visit my parents for the weekend which is about 6 hours away.
Other than this frustrating on-line dating thing life is good.
J9, in my premarried life it always seemed that meeting someone occurred organically. In other words, when I tried to force it then it never really went any place. When I wasn't looking suddenly there materialized an opportunity.
So my suggestion is just to go with the flow. Let happen naturally. Don't stress about it so much. The last thing you want to do is get to attached the process of dating.
Interesting with your EW. Appears the ink on D finalization is only 2 months old. Would you be open to R with your EW? Or no interest at all? I would take this as a sign that she moving back in your direction.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
