Hey G....I had no conversations on Bumble in a week and I am already in a conversation on Match after 1 day. I think if the girls is really into you it won't matter what you say unless your sending D pics, shirtless selfies, etc. The one that I am currently talking to did not respond to my question of meeting for coffee however she was wanting to get to know me. To me coffee if pretty innocent but if she wants to chat for a bit then that's cool.
My girl friend told me the same thing......don't take it personally and keep moving. It took me a minute to get used to that but after going through D chatting with the opposite sex is pretty easy!
Good work on the date.....Bumble? Have you met him before? I have been told for a first date keep it to something simple so if you need to bolt your not spending a ton of money.
I will be home tonight watching you tube videos with my 7 year old....if I am lucky maybe I will have a couple of beers. That is definitely a win!
Alright so now I am talking to 2 girls.....no meet ups/dates have been made yet but once is a hot blonde who is a weapons enthusiast....she totally looks like she could kick my azz but she sent me the sweetest message and we were a 93% match.
LOL....well she just might be! I must say getting used to the on-line dating game has been interesting. I have found that the girls like to chat a bit these days before meeting in person. I guess I can understand it from their point of view but to me it is kind of a time waster. If you don't want to meet for a drink and run the risk of having too much and getting too crazy then just meet for coffee in the middle of the day. I guess they are trying to weed people out but whatever.
I have also found that people just stop chatting for no reason in the middle of a conversation. I was talking to the blonde last night, we were having good back and forth dialouge about each other and then just complete radio silence. Again, whatever but atleast let the other person know you gotta go. I am not chasing her so if she wants to talk again she knows how to get a hold of me.
I finally did get a match on BUMBLE with a girl I swiped right on. I woke up this morning to that notification so we shall see if she reaches out to chat.
The last girl I was talking to yesterday morning politely let me know that she would be in meetings all day and would get back to me later and then she sent me another message last night apologizing for the delay. Now that is totally cool, atleast you let me know and it shows you care, are interested and respectful. I can work with that Your also pretty hot which just an added bonus so hopefully your pictures are recent!
Anyway, no dates yet but in my second week of being on line it is starting to pick up. I have got a ton of interest though but the majority of it has been from people that I would never consider being with.
On a side note it is my youngest birthday today.....the big 7! So we will have the family party today with my oldest, the EW and some family friends. The EW and I are still very cordial and polite to one another which is great......she isn't even on my radar any more. How drastically your emotions change in a year.
Ok so it seems to have come to a standstill with the two girls I was talking to. I havent heard any thing from them since Friday night for one and sat afternoon for the other. Our conversation was general about your kids, where we were from etc. I didnt send any vulgar messages, no nudie pics, just get to know you type of conversation and now they are dark.
I refuse to send b2b messages to them without getting a response back. I responded to them both on Saturday so they can respond to my message if they want, if not then Ill just keep moving.
Things seem to move really slow in the online dating world. Maybe its just me.
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That's right buddy think of it as a game of tennis you hit the ball over the net and the other person has to hit it back over to your side or the game ends.
Good analogy L...I like it! I don't know who they think they are messing with but they just ran into the Roger Federer of on-line dating. I am too valuable to chase.
I feel like I should start calling you Pitbull...or maybe change your LH19 to PBInterLove24/7
Don't mindread too much. They might not be interested, or it could be that they were just busy all weekend and didnt have a chance to respond. Either way, you are correct just to leave it to them.
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Your also pretty hot which just an added bonus so hopefully your pictures are recent!