At her house now... update later. Banana sticker planted too!
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
I'm in the minority here but I would have voted that you make other plans and turn her down tonight. I would have been very apologetic that you couldn't accommodate her but left out what your plans were. Id be afraid at this point that it seems as if you are always available for her.
But anyway, ship is already out of harbor. Good luck and let us know how it goes.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Hey Guys, We'll it went well but I kept it short and sweet. Only stayed about an hour or so but it was nice. She taught me some stuff about gardening. She mentioned how she's sick of men and how disappointing they are. She threw in a few of our memories. Also very interesting thing she mentioned was her childhood friend was coming over. She said she wanted to cancel him but felt bad. She said she wasn't planning on me coming over. I laughed it off and said well don't you think he's going to find it incredibly strange you're hanging out with your ex-husband??!! She said I don't really care what he thinks. So I replied with okay, I could care less, as long as you're not uncomfortable because I can leave. She said no, no you don't have to leave, he will just have to deal with it. I guess the guy is disabled and she hangs with him on Fridays. So now I'm incredibly curious what this guy looks like. So she continued gardening and we continued to visit. She thanked me for bringing what she needed several times. I told her laughingly you're welcome and I'm glad you appreciate it because I had to rearrange my schedule to get it done. Then the dude showed up and I had to contain my laughter. There I was dressed perfect, new sneakers, looking amazing...and there's this unshaven guy with a big grease stain on his pants. Hahahaha. I felt so amazing in that moment. So my phone was inside charging and went in the house to get it and use it as my out to leave because now I saw the guy and that's all I wanted to see LOL! So I said I had to take off. She really didn't want me to...I just knew that. Her body language was screaming for me to stay. It's hard to describe really...since this was essentially a last minute plan of hers for me to go over there...it seemed like she seized the opportunity to have me come over earlier in the day...but had no plan to cancel on this dude. So I go to leave and she comes over with her arms open wanting a hug. So I casually hugged her. I said good luck with the plants, proudly grinned at her, threw my sunglasses on,and left.
I probably should've split before the guy got there but I had to see what he looked like. It turned out to be a good decision to stay because me and this guy standing next to each other must've looked like night and day to her...and I left knowing who she really wanted to spend the evening with tonight.
So that was an adventure!!! Anyway we'll see what happens next. Nothing about the concert which is fine (I'm actually glad really since it's too close now for me to not have already asked someone) and that damned banana sticker? I stuck it inside her shower!
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
UPDATE: Just got a text a few seconds ago from WAW...here it is...
"I'm sorry we couldn't hang longer. I didn't think Jim was definitely coming. I didn't just want your help. I did want to hang with you but I couldn't cancel with him. He doesn't do anything all week. So I'm kinda his only thing. His only night out."
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
So I think it's fine that you went tonight... But do be careful that you don't become her last-minute Friday night thing... Nice banana sticker placement!
Haha thanks Arista! I remember I was SO disappointed when i forgot to plant it last time LOL! She's going go absolutely crack up standing there naked tomorrow morning LOL! Yeah I feel really, really good about today. I was in such total control and it felt obvious to me. Pretty proud of myself actually! Looked good and acted cool!
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
Interesting text. I think she is regretting you left. Anyway the concert is going to be interesting. I think her pursuit will really pick up after you didn't push for her to go after the initial invite.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Agreed Steve...just as I described in my post before she texted that. I can't describe it but "knowing" her like i do I could just tell she wanted to hang out with me. Then that text comes in out of nowhere and my hunch was proven true. Make no mistake my friend...I'm in her head BIG time tonight I think!
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
Hahaha well apparently WAW is taking a very late shower this afternoon LOL! I just got a text with a pic of the banana sticker in her shower with "You're awesome!!! Lol"
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
I replied to that with simply a winking emoticon. Then she replied with a kissing heart emoticon. Think I'll just leave that one be. I'm not sending her a kissy face back, that's for sure.
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
